"What Are You Fitting In To"

Happy Snowy Wednesday - One of life's lessons that I'm sure all of us, if we are honest, is the lesson of trying to fit in. Fitting in can be a good thing, if it's with the right people, or fitting in can be a bad thing, and I'm sure I don't have to explain that; we see enough of those actions, if we choose that path, on television and in our communities and neighborhoods. But the point that I would like to bring to the forefront about fitting in, is why do we always feel the need to have to. Why can't people sometimes fit in with us? Well, the reason why most of us try, is because we want to be accepted among our peers. Now I'm not saying that that's a bad thing, matter of fact, it's normal. However, if we do not have a strong sense of self, we end up falling into the fitting in/follower syndrome, and that's a syndrome, I know oh so well. Growing up as a child, I would try and do everything that someone else was doing, so that I could look like I was just as popular as they appeared. But the difference between me and them was, when they did something, they got away with it, when I did it, I was always caught. Right then and there, my mother told me, "why are you trying to fit in with people who constantly get you in trouble; recognize, that you don't belong with some people." Of course I didn't get it right away; I had to bump my head up against the wall a few more times, before I learned the lesson. Now, when I think about fitting in, into anything, I make sure that I am fitting in for the right reasons: productive relationships, more knowledge that could help benefit me as well as others, and experience. Ask yourself a question today, when I try to fit in now, do I necessarily have to, or do they need to fit in with me sometimes. Stay warm....