"Are You a Diamond or Cubic Zirconia"

Happy Thursday - Settling, unfortunately, is something that we have all fallen prey to, at one point or another; especially when it comes to the departments of relationships and love. As women, we have a tendency to settle for brothers (and by no means am I male bashing) who we know, mean us no good, who we know have someone else, and who, only comes around when things are convenient (read between the lines). And why do we allow this, because for some of us, that's all we think we are worthy of receiving and/or our mindset is, "well at least I got a man." Do you really? We are willing to compromise our self-respect, our good sense, and our bodies to have someone. Some sisters even go as far as physical fighting to keep a man. Now the thing that confuses me with the fight bit is, why do you attack the other woman; it's your so-called man who has lied to both of you. Then there are the games that sisters play (i.e., trying to make another sister jealous, doing all kinds of things to keep a man's attention, and the worst one of all, using a child or children as a pawn - sisters get no respect from me who do that. That is just straight immaturity). No brother, and I repeat, no brother, is worth us settling to that kind of behavior. You ladies, are the diamond, but if you carry yourself like a cubic zirconia, that's the kind of treatment you will receive. Remember, men and people only do to you, what you allow. Now am I saying you have to set your standards so high until it's unrealistic. No, because every one of us have faults and flaws. But what I am saying is that you know when you are settling, you can feel it in your gut. My mother told me years ago, you should never accept being #2, you should always be #1. And that's what I'm saying to you today sisters, you should never be #2, you should always be #1 whether he recognizes it or not. You just make sure you recognize it, and don't settle for anything less than. And I know for some, you are thinking, who are you to tell me anything. A sister can only share what she has already been through. "Been there, done that, and survived." Enjoy your day.....