Happy Sunday Beautiful Ones - I pray everyone has had a great week despite the weather conditions - snow has been plaguing the East Coast some kind of bad. Although it is messy and can oftentimes become somewhat dangerous, snow has it's advantages. It allows us to spend more time with our loved ones, get things done that we have been putting off, but most importantly, it slows us down - and the truth of the matter is, some of us need that. But for those who are patiently waiting for Spring; hold on, it's right around the corner.
Today, I want to share something that has been in my spirit for weeks - Titles. What does having a title mean; what does your title represent, and does a title make you?
We all know that the word "title" has so many different meanings: label, heading, name, possession, description, etc. But as I meditated more and more on what having one means, this came to mind: In life, everyone wants to feel important - and there's nothing wrong with that. But then for some, the only time we feel important is, if we have some kind of title. Am I saying that it's wrong to have titles, of course not. Titles have their place, and many people have worked hard to receive theirs . But what I am addressing is, those who thrive off of having one. Those who go through great lengths to obtain something in order to make themselves appear significant. Those who will tear down, scheme, and cheat in order to have one. Those who, if you don't address them properly, get so bent out of shape, that you wish you hadn't said anything to them at all; which will also be a sure sign to you, that their title make them; not the other way around.
Some of the most kindest and most impactful people I have encountered, were people who have titles, but never allowed their title to make them (they are the people I try to pattern after) and who solely uses it to change the lives of others. They don't use it to fill a void, to show off, to look down on people, or to show those who talked or hated on them - how you like me now. But rather, they've acknowledged that it is a calling/gift that God had given them to fulfil a purpose. Therefore, when they speak who they are, or state what they represent, they do it with humility and modesty because they know at the end of the day, and when it's all said it done, their not going to be remembered by their title or position; their going to be remembered for the impact that they had on people's lives.
Society has a tendency to make us feel that we have to have all of these degrees, positions, and titles, and that's fine, in it's proper place, but if you are not making a difference, or you have an unpleasant disposition, or even a haughtiness about you, all you have is a title.
In closing, other than being a mother and grandmother, which I don't even consider titles, but rather my pleasure, I have taken on several other titles: Licensed Cosmetologist, A Blogger, An Author and an Entrepreneur - all of which I have worked hard to obtain and am extremely grateful for. However, if I lost every position today or tomorrow, would I still be the same Cookie - yes. And why is that you may ask, because I am a person first, not a title; I am who I am with or without them.
Final words: Know what you represent when call yourselves something, think about the purpose of your title, and last but not least, how will you use it to help others. I recently joined a group on FB, "Pretty Girls Rock, No Boys Allowed", and one of the things that stick out to me about that group is, the word Pretty. When looking up the word pretty, this is what I said to myself, if I'm going to call myself a pretty girl/woman, than I have to represent every day, what being pretty means, how I use my prettiness to help others, and does my attitude display a pretty demeanor.
Title(s): what does it mean, what does it represent, and does it make you?
Peace & Love...
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