Diamond Girls: "Women of Substance"

An "Exquisite Affair"

2011-08-07T11:27:00.004-04:00

Hellooooo.....guys, I know you think I have totally forgotten you; never! June and July were some busy months, but never once did I not think about you and our connection that we have. So, with that being said, how is every one's summer going thus far? Have you been on vacation yet? Have you had a chance to make it to a beach or pool? How many family reunions have you gone to. Have you had the chance to read Reflections66 (I know..shameless plug...lol!!). But seriously, have you had a chance to read it. You guys know I can't write without putting a little humor in.

Well, if you have read over this blog, you know that Exquisite Diamonds (my business) had its first conference. Guys, can I tell you; it was work - but the ED team pulled it off. Which is another thing; it is very important to have a good team, and I surely appreciated mine.

The conference was held on Saturday, July 30th and it was a success. From the speakers, to vendors, to the mini makeovers (hair/nails/make-up); it was phenomenal. Although I was all over the place until my son told me to have a seat somewhere, I was in awe. Sometimes when you have a vision, you often wonder how it's going to pan out. Well, the Lord took it beyond what I saw (but that's how He does things - isn't).

As women; young and old, we came together in the spirit of sisterhood and celebration. No one cared about all the other things women have a tendency to focus in on when in the company of each other. You know what things I'm talking about: who is she, look at her outfit, what kind of car she drive, what do you know about her, etc - all of the things that separate and bind us from being our sister's keeper. Things that make us envious and jealous of each other before even getting to know a person, properly. That kind of mentality has, and continues to plague us as women. But at the conference, our sisters; black and white, celebrated each other with open arms. We danced, we cried, we hugged, and we laughed. My heart was overwhelmed - I loved it.

For anyone that understands me; I am one who is always observing. It took me a week to process and dissect every part of what happened on last Saturday. And although the ED Team and I received many positive comments and feedback (thank you to everyone who shared), as the owner of Exquisite Diamonds, this is what I saw:

Exquisite Diamonds are among us every day, but they just don't know it. The Exquisite Diamonds that I observed on Saturday, were the women who were vendors talking and sharing about their products and businesses. They were the Liz Adams - a woman who sacrificed celebrating her birthday to bring a group of young ladies out to the event because she cared about them more then they understood themselves. It is the Director of the Eastern Shore Pregnancy Center (Mrs. Jacquelyn Seldon), who opens her heart up to young expectant teens. It was the young ladies from the Beauty Academy who came and enhanced the beauty of a group of single mothers by doing their hair and nails. It was Ms. Alicia Dennis, the Mary Kay Consultant who added the finishing touches to those young single mothers after the Beauty Academy were done their part. It was the two Oncology Nurses who came and took blood pressures and who made energy flags (thank you Marti Ellis) that we waved in the air as we shook our groove thing to the music that was played (thank you Tyshon Smith) and that represented breast cancer, because I had shared with Marti prior to, that one of my friends (Tanshelle) had just been diagnosed. The Exquisite Diamond is the young single mom, LaToya Johnson who just started an organization called Single Moms on a Mission aka SMOM. It was our Mistress of Ceremony (Ms. Savasti Brown) who always says, "I'm about two things: Business and Babies. My business has to be straight in order to take care of my babies." Amen sister! It was my best friend from Philly (Marcella Tinsley) who too, is a single mom working two jobs just to put her daughter through college who come this year (2012) will be graduating in May. The Exquisite Diamond is Ms. Stephanie Milbourne, a mother of three and my cousin, who no matter what I do, is always there to keep me straight personally and professionally. The Exquisite Diamond is my friend (Deja Bell-Johnson) who came all the way down, she and her husband at the very end of the conference to show their support, because she gave me her word that she would. The Exquisite Diamond is my friend (Sheila Dunn) owner of Treasured Moments who sowed into the vision because she believed in it. The Exquisite Diamonds were the speakers (Dale Reddish, Joyce Farrare, Sara Miller and Jacquelyn Seldon) who all had a story to share that enlightened, motivated, inspired and encouraged us to continue to shine brightly mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. It is the ones, whether far or near, that prayed and sent their love and positive energy to us. It was the ones who faces and spirits glowed in the presence of each other as they took in what was going on around them. It is the woman who did not want to be mentioned that donated bags and lotion and shampoo, for the cause. Ahh yes, they are the Exquisite Ones. I can still feel their spirits just typing this.

So you see, Exquisite Diamonds is not something where you have to be all deep and stuck up or super important with multiple titles behind or in front of your name in order to shine brightly. All you have to know, is your worth. What I observed in that conference is: Exquisite Diamonds are your every day people, who sometime get noticed and sometime don't, who are just trying to do the very best they can with what they have been gifted with, to live the abundant life that God has blessed them with. Some understand their exquisiteness, and some don't. And for those who don't yet; well, that's where we will come in to guide and direct until they can see if for themselves.

Final word - I was glad to connect with other Diamonds last weekend. We made a light so bright that even the help of the facility in which we held the conference had to take notice. It was truly an "Exquisite Affair".

Normally, I would end this by saying peace & love...but today, I'm going to end it by saying,

Shine brightly Exquisite Ones...

Soul Investments

2011-06-22T20:44:00.005-04:00

Happy Wednesday guys. I know what you are thinking; long time, no write. Well, you are absolutely right. I have been so busy with all kinds of projects. I pray all of you are doing well and that you are making progression towards your goals, dreams and aspirations. I pray that all of your loved ones are well, too. Though I have not written much, you are always in my thoughts and prayers. You are the reason I do what I do, and your encouragement is the energy that I use to keep going.

Well, we have transitioned into summer. Who's ready for the beach? I know I am.

Tonight as I sit in quietness (my son is working ya'll - hallelujah, doing my happy dance, strike up the band, wooohoo!! Sorry about that, but I had to get that out), I want to share something that I like to call, " An Investment to the Soul."

Movies, as I'm sure we all like to watch, have so many different messages and stories that they are trying to portray. But then there are some movies that you were so glad you watched, because they were life changing, eye openers, an investment to your soul. I can think of one in particular that I shared with friends and admonished them to go see and that movie was, "Pursuit of Happyness." Talk about an investment to the heart and soul. Outstanding!

Though it was scripted and acted out wonderfully by Will Smith and his son Jaden; that movie stirred something in my soul - it moved me with compassion and determination and once again opened my eyes to how some of us really take our blessings for granted. Well tonight, I was reminded (reminders are something we need throughout life to keep us focused) again of how blessed we are and don't even realize it.

This evening I had the opportunity to hang out with a person who I consider to be like a sister. Though she quietly and apprehensively (she is a very private person) came into my life; her presence, has spoke volumes. To look at her you would think she is just an average person you see in passing, but this quiet spoken woman packs a power within her that would knock you off your feet. Her testimony alone is unbelieveable. I don't know who led who to who; but all I know is, I thank God she's a friend of mine.

Mrs. Brown, I like to call her, invited me to step inside a part of her world that she lovingly gives service to. As I watched her along with others care for the people who were coming in seeking a place of refuge and a hot meal, I marveled at her smile as she greeted each one with love and compassion. Truly this is not something she does to get recognition, to build up her business, to impress people, or to get a pat on the back; this is something that she does out of her service to God for His people.

I quietly sat and watched and said hello to different ones that spoke and smiled from the help, to those being helped. As everyone talked and laughed among themselves, immediately, I said to myself, "We are clueless to all of our blessings." For some of us, me included, we complain about the smallest things that life throws at us. Though some things are bad; trust me, it could be so much more worse. As I continued to watch Mrs. Brown and her friends; something, just like how the movie did, something stirred in my soul; and I thought about this:

Wouldn't it be nice sometimes if we just stopped for a moment trying to be important, trying to make it big, trying to impress people who really don't care about us anyway and see that there are people all around us who are less fortunate, but who have a bigger heart than most us have. That's what I saw tonight. I saw people who knew their situation, but yet they came in as if they didn't have a care in the world. They talked, they laughed, they ate, and they smiled - something that we can hardly do with the blessings we already have. I noticed they didn't care who was looking at them, they didn't care what you had on, they didn't care what kind of car you drove, and they definitely didn't care about your titles; all they cared about was what they were there for.

I watched Mrs. Brown and her friends as they walked among those they had served and how she took the time to cater to an older gentleman who could barely walk without the usage of his cane. Matter of fact when he came in, it was like she was waiting for him. Immediately she came to his aide.

Finally after a half-hour had gone by, some left; and those who wanted more, she and her friends served with the same smile and enthusiam they gave as if the room was crowded.

I will say, I was truly impressed, although I know that's not what she was trying to do. I believe all she wanted me to see was a peek inside her world outside of what she normally does. I believe she wanted me to see her passion; and why not, I've shared mines with her. I'm assuming she said, "now that I know what you like, come see what it is I like to do. And it hit me, what she likes to do is not glamourous, but what she does, is how she is personally - private and quiet.

In closing, being with Mrs. Brown tonight reminded me once again, that some things you see, some things you feel and some things you do, are "Investments to the Soul." Thank you Mrs. Brown for sharing that through your actions and service.

"Then shall the King say unto them on His right hand: Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungered, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger and ye took me in: Naked, and you clothe me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me." Matt 25: 34-36

Peace & Love...

Happy Father's Day

2011-06-19T14:15:00.003-04:00

DGWOS would like to wish every Father, (single or married) Grandfather, Pop-Pop, G-Daddy (that's for the more younger Grandfathers) Uncle, Brother, those who step-in, step-up, and mentor, a Happy Father's Day. The power and strength that God gave you is for a purpose. You are our protectors, our leaders and strength. We extend our love and appreciation for you on this day. May it be filled with much adoration from all that you love you.

PS: To all of the Father's who may no longer be here; we remember you too. Rest in peace.

Peace & Love...

"Happy Mother's Day Mothers and Excuse Me, Some Sirs Too.."

2011-05-08T10:22:00.005-04:00

DGWOS want to wish all of the mothers (no matter in what capacity you played the role of a nurturing and caring individual who shaped the lives of children) a "Happy Mother's Day". This is your day to rest and relax and to catch your breath, because tomorrow, it all starts back up again. Lol!!! Ladies, and excuse me, some sirs too; we applaud you on this day for your endless sacrifice to help shape unique and productive individuals that we call children - the greatest gifts that God gives us.

Peace & Love...

Transformation

2011-04-01T09:02:00.006-04:00

Happy Friday - Well ladies; I'm back. How are you doing...it's the weekend and its April Fools Day - who remembers all of the April Fool's songs and rhymes. My favorite: April Fools go to school, tell your teacher he/she's a fool. I sang that song one year to a teacher thinking that she was going to find it funny. Uhhh, let's just say, by the time my mother finished with me; I would not sang that to another teacher ever..lol. Whewww, those were the days. The month of March was a busy, as well as an emotional and transitional month for me. I wanted to write, but I think I was too caught up in the emotions I was feeling and experiencing. Although to the outside, it looked like I was still functioning fairly well, but on the inside, I was really going through something deeper. Some of it I shared via FB or Twitter from time to time, but really I was searching and seeking through prayer, what it was that my heart and soul was feeling. And like with anything when in this kind of state, I like to retreat to quiet places so that I can dissect what it is I need to learn. This is what I discovered in those quiet moments: There comes a time in all of our lives when we go through a transformation (change in form, appearance, nature or character) of some sort. Whether its a change from middle school to high school, from high school to college, from singleness to marriage, from being boys and girls to becoming adults, from having children to having adult children - every one of these experiences, transforms us in some way. In this transformational stage, the emotions you may experience, can sometimes be overwhelming, even frightening I might add, because it forces you to look at everything about yourself; the good, the bad, and the ugly. It forces you to look at all of your shortcomings, your failures, your weaknesses, and insecurities. And sometimes, all of that alone, will make you feel inferior and that you are the only one; but you're not. What you are experiencing is just another stage in life. A stage that is transforming your appearance and character for the better. A few days ago while working out, the thought hit me, not only are you transforming your body, but you are transforming emotionally. In three more days, I will be celebrating another birthday - I'll be 45...five years away from 50. That alone, is a transformation. The changes (there's that word...change) that my body and appearence have morphed into, is phenomenal to me. I have transformed from a young girl to a woman of purpose, character and destiny down through the years - amazing. This transformation has been a beautiful journey, and I have learned to embrace it, and I'm still, in the words of Mary Mary, "walking." On this transformational journey, I've gained some friends, and I've lost some. I've to learn how to release my baby son to the journey and path that God has for him. I'm learning how to be a mother-in-law and not just my son's mother, to his girlfriend (does that make sense). I'm learning how to be a better friend to the friends that God places in my life for the season that He places them in there. I'm discovering how to walk better in my entrepreneurial shoes. I could go on and on with all that I have discovered and learned, but I think you get the point. So in closing, I leave you with a question: what transformation has taken place in your life, and what did you discover about yourself through this transition. Whatever it is, just know, it's making you into something beautiful. Like a catepillar metamorphising into a butterfly, it's changing you into someone you never would have dreamed of being. Despite the rain ladies, sisters, friends; I pray you have a beautiful weekend. Peace and Love... PS: Stay tuned for changes coming to this blog in the near future...

"Celebrate You"

2011-03-02T21:38:00.002-05:00

It's Women's History Month - Take time this month to celebrate you, your mother, a sister, a granddaughter, an auntie, a good girlfriend, a cousin, a niece, or any woman who has made a difference in your life. I celebrate my "Mommy" - Geraldine Smith.

"Take Care of Ourselves"

2011-02-20T09:53:00.005-05:00

DGWOS salutes you First Lady Obama. Thank you for being a Model of Grace, Intelligence, Modesty and Class. You are an inspiration to me, and to all others who strive to make their dreams come true.

"Women in particular need to keep an eye on their physical and mental health, because if we are scurrying to and from appointments and errands, we don't have a lot of time to take care of ourselves. We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own "to do" list." - First Lady, Michelle Obama.

"Spring is Just Around the Corner"

2011-02-16T06:58:00.003-05:00

Happy Wednesday ladies - It's hump day - yeah!!!; two more days before the weekend. Despite sinus and allergies; I woke up this morning feeling good. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping, and the clouds are blue. This is a sure sign, that "Spring" is right around the corner. How exciting. We have had a enough of cold and snow (even though I know they have their purpose), but still; it's time for some warm weather to come on the horizon.

Tell me some of the things you plan to do in order to get into the "spring" of things. What new colors are you going to add to your wardrobe, what shade of lipstick, lipgloss or blush, will you rock. What new fingernail polishes will you display on your hands and toes. Hmmm, don't you just love it - the beauty of what seasons changing, do for you.

For me, I will continue to be "Bold" - that is my word for 2011. Therefore, I will add the colors to my wardrobe. I will buy shades of lipstick, that I don't normally buy, to express my boldness for the spring.

I'm grateful that life does have seasons, because if it didn't, we would be some boring people.

Have a great day, today guys.

Peace & Love....

"Happy Valentine's Day"

2011-02-14T14:19:00.003-05:00

It seems appropriate that February is the month dedicated to heart health with Valentine's Day right in the middle of the month. I am writing from my heart directly to YOU. Why? Because you have more power than you recognize. Women drive healthcare. It is you who sees that the children get the vaccines that will protect them from serious illness. It is you who reminds her Mom to get her mammogram or to take her blood pressure medicine. It is you who arranges for your partner to get healthcare. Now I am going to ask a favor of you: Take the time to take care of YOU. Where will every one else be without you in their lives? Heart disease is the number one killer of women in the United States. Twice as many women as men die from heart disease. What can you do? The bigger question is: What ARE you doing? Take a minute. Just sixty seconds. Feel your heart beating in your chest. Now take a minute to ask yourself how you are giving yourself the best shot at a long and healthy future. It's time to make a choice. Keep doing what you have always done and become just another statistic, or take charge and move those statistics in the right direction. Eat a well balanced diet rich in fruits and vegetables. Keep your daily fat intake under 30 Gms. Move it! Exercise as simple as walking 30 minutes twice a day can significantly improve your heart health. Take the time for you. It only takes a few minutes to add healthy years to your life.

Dale G Reddish, MSN, CRNPProgram Director: Women's Prevention and Wellness Services

Love yourself enough to be healthy!!!

Shirley Anita St. Hill Chilshom (November 1924-January 2005)

2011-02-08T20:53:00.007-05:00

Shirley Anita St. Hill Chilshom was an American politician, educator and author. In 1968, she became the first black woman to be elected to Congress. On January 25, 1974, she became the first major-party black candidate for President of the United States, and the first woman to run for the Democratic presidential nomination.

"You don't make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas." - Shirley Chilshom.

Congratulations Green Bay Packers

2011-02-07T19:21:00.002-05:00

SUPER BOWL 45 CHAMPIONS

Who You Rooting For....

2011-02-05T15:48:00.003-05:00

It' Super Bowl Time Ladies....get your game face on.....Grrrrrrrrrr!!!!

Green Bay Packer vs. Pittsburgh Steelers

Zora Neale Hurston

2011-02-04T19:40:00.002-05:00

Zora Neale Hurston (January 7, 1891-January 29, 1960), was an American folklorist, Anthropologist, and an Author during the time of the Harlem Reniassance. She is best known for her novel, "Their Eyes Were Watching God", a book that Oprah Winfrey turned into a movie, starring Halle Berry and Michael Ealy.

"Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It's beyond me." - Zora Neale Hurston

Ms. Zora Neale Hurston, DGWOS salutes you for Black History Month.

"Black History Month"

2011-02-01T07:58:00.006-05:00

Diamond Girls: Women of Substance is celebrating "Black History Month". As we remember the lives of those; past and present, who have been an inspiration and who have made a difference in our lives and the lives of others; I begin with the woman whose quote, graces this blog - Harriet Tubman.

"I had reasoned this out of my mind, there was one of two things I had a right to, liberty or death; if I could not have one, I would have the other" - Harriet Tubman

Thank you Ms. Tubman for having the courage to free the lives of so many people. DGWOS...celebrates you today on this first day of Black History Month.

Titles....

2011-01-30T13:55:00.006-05:00

Happy Sunday Beautiful Ones - I pray everyone has had a great week despite the weather conditions - snow has been plaguing the East Coast some kind of bad. Although it is messy and can oftentimes become somewhat dangerous, snow has it's advantages. It allows us to spend more time with our loved ones, get things done that we have been putting off, but most importantly, it slows us down - and the truth of the matter is, some of us need that. But for those who are patiently waiting for Spring; hold on, it's right around the corner.

Today, I want to share something that has been in my spirit for weeks - Titles. What does having a title mean; what does your title represent, and does a title make you?

We all know that the word "title" has so many different meanings: label, heading, name, possession, description, etc. But as I meditated more and more on what having one means, this came to mind: In life, everyone wants to feel important - and there's nothing wrong with that. But then for some, the only time we feel important is, if we have some kind of title. Am I saying that it's wrong to have titles, of course not. Titles have their place, and many people have worked hard to receive theirs . But what I am addressing is, those who thrive off of having one. Those who go through great lengths to obtain something in order to make themselves appear significant. Those who will tear down, scheme, and cheat in order to have one. Those who, if you don't address them properly, get so bent out of shape, that you wish you hadn't said anything to them at all; which will also be a sure sign to you, that their title make them; not the other way around.

Some of the most kindest and most impactful people I have encountered, were people who have titles, but never allowed their title to make them (they are the people I try to pattern after) and who solely uses it to change the lives of others. They don't use it to fill a void, to show off, to look down on people, or to show those who talked or hated on them - how you like me now. But rather, they've acknowledged that it is a calling/gift that God had given them to fulfil a purpose. Therefore, when they speak who they are, or state what they represent, they do it with humility and modesty because they know at the end of the day, and when it's all said it done, their not going to be remembered by their title or position; their going to be remembered for the impact that they had on people's lives.

Society has a tendency to make us feel that we have to have all of these degrees, positions, and titles, and that's fine, in it's proper place, but if you are not making a difference, or you have an unpleasant disposition, or even a haughtiness about you, all you have is a title.

In closing, other than being a mother and grandmother, which I don't even consider titles, but rather my pleasure, I have taken on several other titles: Licensed Cosmetologist, A Blogger, An Author and an Entrepreneur - all of which I have worked hard to obtain and am extremely grateful for. However, if I lost every position today or tomorrow, would I still be the same Cookie - yes. And why is that you may ask, because I am a person first, not a title; I am who I am with or without them.

Final words: Know what you represent when call yourselves something, think about the purpose of your title, and last but not least, how will you use it to help others. I recently joined a group on FB, "Pretty Girls Rock, No Boys Allowed", and one of the things that stick out to me about that group is, the word Pretty. When looking up the word pretty, this is what I said to myself, if I'm going to call myself a pretty girl/woman, than I have to represent every day, what being pretty means, how I use my prettiness to help others, and does my attitude display a pretty demeanor.
Title(s): what does it mean, what does it represent, and does it make you?

Peace & Love...

A Day With Sistahs United on the Eastern Shore Book Club

2011-01-23T09:58:00.007-05:00

A special thank you to Sistahs United on the Eastern Shore Book Club (http://www.suesbookclub.webs.com/) for selecting Reflections66 as their book of the month. I couldn't have asked for a better way to kick of the new year. To me it was the icing on the cake, because just this time last year, I was celebrating the release of it - January 9, 2010. At this gathering, I made the announcement of my upcoming sophmore book; to be released in May of this year. But I want to give a special thank you to Lori Morris - this sister keeps me informed on everything that pertains to Authorship. You are the best Lori.

I'm going to close on this note: The other day I was reflecting back on how I feel about this whole thing of being an Author; all I knew was that I loved to write - been doing it since Junior High School. But stepping into a role of Authorship, was something I never phatomed in my mind. Heck, it just took me until the end of November to accept the fact that I was one. I even struggled with saying the words, "I'm an Author."

From the beginning of this process up until now, the only thing that that I wanted to do, was write a book. So now, one year later, I am working on my second - incredible.

Peace & Love....

Martin Luther King, Jr.

2011-01-17T10:34:00.004-05:00

Diamond Girls: Women of Substance is Celebrating the Life, the Vision, the Commitment, and Legacy that Dr. King left behind.

"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judge by the color of their skin but by the content of their character."

Thank you Dr. King for having a dream so that our dreams could be fulfilled.

"Step Up Your Confidence"

2011-01-11T19:18:00.003-05:00

Happy Tuesday Evening Ladies - Are you finally getting settled into this New Year? Have you made any changes yet? I'm not saying it has to be anything major, but at least a change of something...even if it's just a change of mind; at least it's something. And truthfully, that's where the change should begin. Once it changes there (in your mind), then you are well on your way to bringing whatever it is you want, into fruition.

As we continue to get settled in this year, the word confidence has been floating around in my spirit. I questioned why that word, as I have posted something on it before, and then it hit me: in order to achieve what it is you want to do this year, you have to have confidence. You have to have the belief, the tenacity, the spunk, and the determination (all the things that confidence symbolize), to see it through. Not just in this year, but in whatever you choose to do in life.

Confidence has to be there when no one doesn't believe in your dream, when people try to tear you down and undermine your ability, when your naysayers laugh at your mishaps and failures, and even when you, yourself, don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I mean you know it's there, and you know in the end, everything is going to work out, but depending on how stressful the situation you are facing, just at that moment, you may lose a smidget of it (confidence). Confidence has to come across when you step into a room, when you talk, in your body language. And so what, if you don't look like everyone else. Look like you, and be confident in that.

Ladies, you have what it takes to do the things that you want to do - God has already placed in you, the question is, do you belief in yourself enough to walk in it. And if you don't at first, it's okay; we all have to find our way. But until you find it, keep yourself surrounded by people who exude it, and when it's time, "step-up your confidence."

I love with a sisterly love - have a great rest of the evening.

Peace & Love...

"Get Settled, and Organize"

2011-01-04T18:12:00.006-05:00

Good Evening Beautiful Ones - Well, it's the 4th day of the year. For most of us, that meant, our holiday vacation was over Sunday evening, and we are back to our routine on yesterday. Children went back to school, traffic was horrendous again, basketball games, practices, gym, etc. Then for others, it means a different outlook; a new perspective; a new adventure - that's the kind of energy that a new year brings. (If you've noticed, I've even made some changes to this blog - hope you like it) But as I meditated on these thoughts today, this word came to mind: organization. Before we make plans to do anything in this new year, we should organize some things in our lives.

Growing up, my mother had a saying, which in hindsight now, made a lot of sense. She used to say, "you are busy doing nothing". Meaning, I was all over the place, with my hands in everything, but not one thing was being accomplished. Part of the reason for that, was because I was not organized in my deeds, in my actions, or my emotions - I just kind of went which ever way the wind blew. So you can imagine how crazy I was, and looked. Just no structure nowhere.

In the corporate world though, organization meant decluttering a heap of things that were no longer needed. And so it is in our lives...get rid of things and people who keep you scattered brained in your deeds, cluttered emotionally and discombobulated in your actions - organize.

Also when we think of organization, most times, we think of groups coming together for a cause, or ridding our desk of piles of paper work (I'm currently dealing with that right now at work - lol!!). But I would like to take it a step further: In order to be organized in deeds, we must first have organization of self. When we have no control over our thoughts, emotions, or actions, it will show, by the way we handle our business. Just think about that for a minute. Things that make you go hmmmm....

So as we settle in to this new year, and as we start pursuing our goals and dreams, make sure that we have some organization of self. Let's take time to learn how to become organized and calm in our thinking and in our spirit, so that our emotions won't rule us. Because when we're not, we begin to unravel at the seams, which in turn, will cause disorganization; from disorganization, to frustration; from frustration, to getting nothing accomplished; to eventually loses and wasted time. And if you know like I know, life is too precious, and too valuable, to waste.

Wow, this is really hitting home with me tonight. I hope it does the same for you.

Peace & Love...

"Reflections2010"

2010-12-31T22:52:00.004-05:00

Happy New Years Beauty Ones - First and foremost, let me start off by giving God praise for bringing us through another year - that alone should make you stop whatever you are doing for a few moments and find a quiet place to tell Him thank you. Thank Him for the grace and mercy that He bestowed upon us all year so that we could live to see this moment, this second, this evening. Year 2010 was a year that when it started, we had no clue what it entailed. All we knew was that it was a year for us to start with a clean slate; a year for us to make a change. And despite the fact that we had to deal with disappointments, failures, heartaches, and loss; still excited, we went into 2010 with eager hearts, and with creative and innovative ideas of how we were going to do better than we did the year before - yeah!! But like with anything, we start off with good intentions, and then, reality hits, and before you know it, we fall back into our same routine - but thank God for another chance.

Now if I must say from my own take of 2010; it has been an incredible year, inspite all of its ups and downs. I met new people, formed new relationships, gained a great niece, and most recently my son became engaged. But what has truly been the highlight of 2010 for me, was the publishing of my first book (Reflections66 - January 9, 2010) - I can became an Author (wow). Then I became the creator of Diamond Girls: Women of Substance (January 2010) - a blog created to empower and strengthen women of any age, and last but not least, something that has been my passion long before coming an Author, I became an Entrepreneur (Exquisite Diamonds - October 2010); things that I thought only "other" people could do. Let me say it again...WOW!!! But see, that's the beauty of a new year, it gives you a chance to do something new; something you never thought in your wildest dreams you could do.

So as we inch closer to 12 midnight, and as this year comes to a close, let us thank God for the change that is about to take place. I'm excited, because I can feel newness down in my soul, like nobody's business. I see new friendships being formed, new (love) relationships happening. I see people breaking free of people and things that have been detritmental to their well being, and picking up things and friends that will make them stronger beings. I see blessings being bestowed upon people. I hear laughs; I hear joy, I see love. I see peace; I see the weak becoming strong. I see a new things happening.

HAPPY NEW YEARS EVERYBODY - We made it to 2011!!!!

"Merry Christmas"

2010-12-22T22:08:00.004-05:00

Diamond Girls: Women of Substance would like to wish you all a very Merry Christmas. Enjoy your day with your family and friends. And for those who may feel all alone during this season; remember, you are never alone. He (Jesus Christ) promised to never leave you nor forsake you.

Peace & Love...

"Stepping Out..."

2010-12-08T19:30:00.005-05:00

Happy Wednesday Ladies - Two more days before the weekend. I am so looking forward to a quiet weekend (now rather it's quiet or not...that remains to be seen; but I'm still looking for it...lol!!). All this week, the words comfort zone have been coming up in my spirit, when I look on Twitter, if I hear someone speaking, etc. So I figured, the Lord must be trying to tell me something. Therefore, I thought I would share it with you too. Who knows, it might be for you.

For most of us, we love staying in a zone/area that is familiar. However, when it comes to stepping outside of that realm; it has a tendacy to ruffle our feathers. Now I'll admit, no one is quick to move from a comfortable spot or surrounding. For me, being in a comfortable spot, is like laying in that position in bed under all of your covers, warm and toasty when its cold outside. The mere thought of getting up from it to go to the bathroom in the middle of night drives you crazy. I mean, we know we have to go, and we know we need to hop up in order to get the relief. But instead, what we will do, is rock back and forth, and twist and turn, until we can't take it any more, or worst... I'll let your imagination run with that one...

Where am I going with this, you may ask; here. There are so many dreams and aspirations that we want to accomplish, but will never have the opportunity to accomplish them, because we are afraid to step out of our comfort zones. And how do I know this - I'm experiencing it now. Sometimes in order to achieve certain things, you have to be willing to change some things about how you think, how you operate, who you hang with, and how you see yourself. Is this always easy? Heck no! This can be a difficult thing; especially if we are creatures of habit. But you can't get different results, doing the same thing. Every day, you have to make a conscious decision to step out/change that zone/habit.

I remember when I went to school for hair...talking about stepping out of my comfort zone; (left my fulltime job, had a child in college, a single momma, sole-bread winner of the house, car payment, car insurance, rent, gas, electric; you name it, I had it) but I knew what I wanted to do. And so here I am today; a licensed cosmetologist.

Ladies/Sisters, I get it; no one likes to be in an uncomfortable position, but when it comes to you wanting to do something different; your're going to have to change your stature. You're going to have to tell yourself every day; I can do this. You're going to have to surround yourself with people who are in the same situation as you.

Whether we want to admit it or not; every now and then, a little uncomfortability is what we need. If some of us hadn't experienced it, we may not be as far as we are today. So my beautiful sisters, STEP OUT OF THAT COMFORT ZONE - You have work to do.

Have a great rest of the evening.

Peace & Love...

"Christmas: The Feeling It Brings"

2010-12-04T17:00:00.004-05:00

- Happy Saturday Beautiful Ones - It's Christmas time y'all! What is it about the holidays that brings out the kindness and generosity in people? Is it the gathering of family, the excitement of decorating, or just the sheer joy of giving to your fellow man or woman. Whatever the reason, peoples' attitudes change around this time of year. People who normally don't speak, begin speaking, families that are spread throughout the states, begin making plans to come home, and grandparents get excited, because they get to see grandchildren (from the oldest down to the newborn). Homes are filled with the aromas of apple-cinnamon, the scent of pine trees, and baked goods (cookies, cakes, pies, etc...translation - yummy). Mistletoe is hung over doors so that you can give kisses to different ones as the come to visit. And for some us, we use mistletoe as a way to steal a kiss from the ones that we secretly have crushes on. Holiday music filters throughout Living/Dining Rooms, department stores, radios waves, restuarants, and businesses of every kind. Then there are the Christmas parties that your place of employment gives; I especially love those, because I get to see another side of people.

Hmmm, it's just something about this holiday that makes us feel warm, giving, and loving. Besides the birth of my children, it's the most beautifulest thing I've ever experienced. It makes me wanna sing all kinds of carols; hymns; and songs that make the spirit within me, happy. Again, what is about this season?

However; although I love what this season represents, please know, that I am not oblivious to the realities of what many may experience around this time. For some, this a difficult time of the year--especially if you have lost your love ones either this year or in times past. This time of year, is also a time where suicide is at an all time high; people feel like they have no hope and no one who cares. And let us not forget, how the economy this year has affected so many people (loss of jobs, homes, etc) - that's why all kinds of humanitarian drives are going on - there are a lot of people in need.

So as I sit and meditate on what Christmas means to me (as we all have different meanings), I'm curious as to what it means to you? I leave you with one of my favorite scriptures concerning Christ (mas):
"For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given: and the government shall be upon His shoulder: and His name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The Mighty God, the Everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace"...Is 9:6

Peace & Love...

Happy Thanksgiving

2010-11-25T10:35:00.003-05:00

Diamond Girls: Women of Substance would like to wish you and your family a "Happy Thanksgiving".

Enjoy your day with your family and love ones today. Amend broken relationships, tell someone you love them, express from your heart, and give thanks for all; the good and bad. Cherish these moments; because you never know what tomorrow holds.

Peace and Love....

"Whatcha Got In Your Bag"

2010-11-20T08:14:00.005-05:00

Happy Saturday Sisters - I pray that you all have had a great week, and I'm sure you are glad it's the weekend. I have been wanting to write all week, but things and situations got in the way, and by time I had a minute to do something, sleep became more appealing (lol!!).

Anyhoo...I wanted to share something that has been floating in my spirit all week; and that is, "whatcha got in your bag." As women, we love our purses and bags - the bigger they are, the more stuff we fill them with. If we are mothers; we got just about everything in there accept the kitchen sink. But if we thought we needed that too, and if we have a bag big enough to fit it in; oh, we would have it in there. As a hairstylist, my bag carries styling tools (flat iron, combs, etc.); whatever I think you will need for a quick fix on the go.

Bags and purses play major parts in a woman's life. They are the representations of who we are, and what our status is. According to the style of bag or purse, you can tell if a woman has money; is confident; or stylish. Bags and purses keep some of our most intimate things inside them (cell phones, make-up, wallet & personal information). But here's where my thought comes in; no matter what kind of bag or purse we have, there are two things that should not be found in them: jealousy and envy. Ooh; those two words, just made your nice beautiful bag/purse look tacky.

If those two items are found in your bag, then it will show how you feel about yourself; for real, for real. It will show, that the nice big designer bag that you sport and tote for all to see, and ooh and awh at, like you got it going on, is really just a cover-up for what you harbor in your heart (ouch!!). If you being a confident sister, like you want all to believe, then why would you have those two weights in your bag. Having those weights, will weigh your shoulder down, and eventually your spirit.

So the question remains, "whatcha got in your bag?" If it is something that you know shouldn't be there, and it is taking up space; get rid of it quickly - only keep the necessities that best represent you, and that can help others, if need be.

Alright ladies, that's my thought for today. Do you feel like cleaning out your bag/purse? I've cleaned mine. What? You think just because I write this, that I don't take heed to my own words. I let you in on a little secret; before I even share this, I'm checking myself first. I never like to feel I'm above anything or anyone. I'm living this thing called life, just like you.

I hope the remainder of your weekend will be fabulous. Grab your bag girl, and strut with the confidence of knowing that you do not carry anything that is non appealing to your persona.

Peace & Love....

"Am I My Sisters' Keeper?"

2010-11-08T06:09:00.003-05:00

Happy Monday Morning Ladies - This morning I woke up with my soul stirring, which means, I have to write. That's how it hits me. When things move me, I begin to place it on paper, or whatever my canvas is.

Last night, while out with loved one, we saw the phenomonally done (Kudos to Tyler Perry),
"For Colored Girls". As I sat and watched, along with other women, the harsh realities of these women's lives; I thought to myself, everyone of them at some part in my life, I have been. I identified with each one. Maybe not to the letter, but to some degree.

When the movie was over, I walked away feeling free, and with a sense of awareness when it comes to us as women. We are, even though this was "For Colored Girls", truly, our sisters' keeper, no matter what race, color or creed. The life that was portrayed on the screen, is happening everywhere, and in some way, we are connected.

If you think it is imperative for us as a people to stay connected to help those who don't realize they need help, it is detrimental, when we choose to turn a deaf ear. Phyllicia Rashaad in the movie was the character that I most identified with. She was the women who I can say, I have seen many times in my life. She was the woman who was my saving grace at times, even when I didn't want to hear her words. When I was being totally rebellious against what my mother had instilled in me. What I knew was right, but chose to take a different route.

I know you must be thinking, what does all of that, that you are writing have to do with anything. Simply this, "We Are Our Sisters' Keeper". Love someone enough to be transparent, to help them. Tell your story, open their eyes, be that mother, that sister, that wise one, because whether we want to admit it or not, we are all connected. If you are functioning in this thing called life, then you know, that no color, no status, no title, no education, no position, can stop what life brings.

In closing,I leave you with this question, Am I my sisters' keeper, or am I her adversary.

Have a great day today. Peace and Love...

"Make a Difference - VOTE!!!!"

2010-11-01T10:58:00.004-04:00

Happy Monday - Ladies, we have the power to make a difference. Tomorrow is your opportunity to take part in making a better future for you and your love ones. In your travels on tomorrow, don't forget to VOTE!!! If you voted in 2008, I want you to take the same momentum and vote on tomorrow. The power lies within your hands.

VOTE!!! VOTE!!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!! VOTE!!!

Life Still Goes On...

2010-10-28T23:42:00.005-04:00

Happy Thursday evening - I'm writing so late tonight, but nonetheless, I'm writing this. My heart is overwhelmed tonight. I attended a program this evening that brought back a time in my life that I thought I would never get past - being a teenage mother. But I was reminded tonight, that life still went on, and I made it, and my son that I gave birth to, in less than three days, will be 26.

A fundraiser tonight, for teenage mothers, brought joy to my heart. Looking at the young woman tonight, I saw myself. I saw the fear, the embarrassment, the shame and the looks and snarls of people who thought it was a sin for young woman at my age (17), to be pregnant. My first thought was to abort my baby, but God had another plan, and He saw me through. And just like the women shared tonight how people sowed into their lives, God did the same thing for me.

I am just filled up tonight. Life is not over because you've made mistakes; that's just apart of life. As the speaker said tonight, pregnancy is not the only mistake that are made - we all have hidden sins that are not visible to the eye. And although people do not understand what's happening behind the scenes, God does. And that's all that matters.

If you have babies tonight, go in their room(s) and kiss them tonight, no matter what age they are. And if they are not living at home with you any longer, give them a call or send a text, and let them know that they were the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Peace and Love...

Phases

2010-10-26T19:18:00.003-04:00

Happy Tuesday Sisters - I pray all has had a great day today. Mine was a little funky; took Benadryl late last night, and felt sluggish all day. I don't think I realized how potent that stuff is. Although, I did sleep very well, last night.

This evening, a word has been floating around in my mind - phase(s). In my Joan Rivers voice, "Can We Talk." It amazes me in life, how our lives go through so many different phases. We go through the phase of infancy to toddler, from toddler to teenagers, from teenagers to young adults and from young adults to adulthood. We are constantly evolving into some new phase. Well, I'm feeling like a new phase in my life right about now. In less than six months, I will be turning 45, that's five years away from the big "50" - wow. Not that I'm complaining or anything because I'm not. I'm just amazed at how my mind works now. I'm at a phase, where I want to live like never before. I'm more aware of things around me. I appreciate everything; trees, flowers, sounds, etc. Do you know what I mean?

Phases, for some people are frightening, and the reason being, is because phases mean change. But I say, don't be afraid of the phase or season that you are in right now; embrace it. For in your embracing, you will discover a new you.

Sisters, life is about phases and changes and with those phases, comes new challenges and discoveries. Therefore, when you find yourself in this position, enjoy the moment, because in a few short minutes, another will be coming along.

Have a great rest of the night, and remember, enjoy the phase you are at right now.

Peace & Love...

"Don't Doubt Yourself"

2010-10-24T17:32:00.003-04:00

Happy Sunday - Sisters, I hope your weekend has been good. The weather was gorgeous, and the sun was shining bright. For us to be soon entering into November, I would say the Lord has been gracious to us with the weather.

For the past two weeks, I have been sharing with you my excitement about becoming an Entrepreneur. Well would you believe, this morning, my mind began to play tricks on me (translation; I started to doubt myself) - you don't know what you are doing; you won't be able to run a business; you're not in the right location. I wrestled with those thoughts all morning up until the time I went to church. Like always though, when things bother me, and when the enemy of soul begins to vex me sore, I turn to God for guidance.

As my son and I sat and listened to the Praise and Worship, I begin to hand over my fears and doubts to God, so that I could refocus. And wouldn't you know it, when the Preacher got up to preach, he began talking about how we were uniquely created, and that we had something special inside of us. We were great like diamonds. By the time he said the word diamonds about three or four times, I knew God was answering my prayer.

What are you saying, you may ask? Simply this: never doubt yourself. If God placed a vision, whatever that vision is, in your spirit for you to do, know that He is with you every step of the way; even when you don't quite understand which way things are going to go.

As a little girl, I used to hear the Mothers of the church say: trust in God and never doubt, and He will surely bring you out. Don't doubt yourself sisters, no matter what it looks like.

In closing, I leave you with this scripture to meditate on this week: Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ...Phillipians 1:6

Peace & Love....

"An Exquisite Movement"

2010-10-21T13:58:00.001-04:00

Happy Thursday Beautiful Ones – We are one day away from the weekend. Yesss!!! I hope your week has been progressive thus far with all of your endeavors. It has been rainy on our end, but nonetheless, it still has been a good week.

Today, I wanted to share something that dropped in my spirit on yesterday - I was home under the weather; and that is the word, movement. Yesterday in the solitude of my home, the word movement kept coming up over and over again, concerning Exquisite Diamonds. Movement I kept saying, and again I heard it as plain as day – Movement. So when I looked it up, there were two definitions that echoed with what was stirring on the inside of me: a collective effort by a large group of people to try to achieve something, and a group of people organized, to effect change. The latter part, caused me to say, “Whoomp, there it is!!!”

Just a brief history to help you understand why that word meant so much to me on yesterday. For years, Women’s Ministry has always been my passion. I have always wanted to make a difference in anyone’s life that I came in contact with, but in particular, women. That was the whole purpose of me starting this blog, and eventually my business, Exquisite Diamonds. So as that word kept floating around in my head, this is what hit me: My purpose in this business is far beyond selling T-shirts (although I love what they represent), but my purpose in this business, is to start a movement among women all over the world when it comes to knowing who they are, what they possess, and what they are worth. When that message gets out, then the movement has been started. My question is, “who is willing to join me, in getting this movement started?”

Sistahs, whatever the Lord has placed in your spirit to do, start your movement – it’s time now. We as women have something to offer. Will it be easy? Heck no. Anytime anyone tries to bring about change to anyone’s mind set for the better, there will be opposition and resistance. Therefore, let no one tell you what you can and cannot do, and do not except no for an answer. And if you grow weary in the struggle, just think about the great words of our President, Barack Obama: “Yes We Can”.

With that being said, I have added to this page, a corner called “An Exquisite Movement”. This section is for you to share the movement that you have started doing in your community, and abroad.

In closing, work your vision, and work your passion, and start your movement, where ever you may reside. I pray you have a great rest of the day. Peace & Love…

PS: Stay tuned for upcoming events for “Exquisite Diamonds”

READ!!!

2010-10-18T16:22:00.002-04:00

Happy Monday – Well ladies, I did it – I did my radio interview for Reflections66 with Literary Diva’s Doll House, without fumbling over my words. Yeahhh!!!! Okay, now that I have gotten out of the way, how are you guys doing? Did you have a good weekend? Despite the wind, it was beautiful. Although mine was busy: my baby son’s football game, radio interview, Del State homecoming, and my great niece (cute as a button) being dedicated back to the Lord, I thoroughly enjoyed it.

This afternoon, I wanted to share something with you that really made me think over the weekend – Illiteracy vs. Literacy. Saturday as I was interviewing with Literary Diva, she brought out some very important points concerning people and reading, but one that stuck out in particular, was the one where she stated how illiteracy affects millions of people. And I got to thinking, what do we do to help people who we know cannot read or write. As she stated, “illiteracy, literally affects every aspect of our lives.” Wow.

I don’t know what kind of programs your city may have for those who need help in this area, but I will say, if you know of someone who struggles with this, in your own way, try and help them to find a way to become literate; no matter what the age. If you have children, encourage them to read more. Start making day trips to the Library until it becomes like second nature – we’ve gotten so far away from that. Video games have kind of taken that away from our children. But as parents, we have the power to steer them back to the basics.

Reading and writing are such powerful tools to have. When we read, we expand our mind, and when write, we put into words the expansion that reading has done for us. It’s like the two go hand in hand.

In closing, although the interview Saturday was something to give my book, Reflections66, exposure, I left the interview focusing more on those who could not read and write. When you think about it, it’s disheartening, because reading alone is powerful, but when you merge the two together, there is no stopping you in the things that you can do with these tools.

If you haven’t picked up a book, magazine or newspaper in a while, pick up one and read! For those who have struggles in this area, check your local libraries, and find out how you can get help. Read!!!! Peace & Love

PS: If you missed the interview, you can log on to website: www.blogtalkradio.com/diva29 to hear it.

PPTP (Push Past the Pain)

2010-10-15T12:13:00.001-04:00

Happy Friday Sistahs – This week has been such a busy week, but I am so grateful that the weekend is here – woohooo!!! Do you guys have any plans for the weekend? Aside from the interview I have tomorrow, I have football, and then I’m going to Del State’s homecoming to celebrate with my nephew. I’ll be tired, but it will be worth it.

Today I want to share, “pushing past the pain”. Yesterday, my baby son, got braces, and as the day went on, he began to feel the pain of having them on. As I did what mommas do; trying to make his adjustment comfortable, this thought came to me. In life, there are times, when adjustments have to come for a far, more greater purpose. Sometimes these adjustments are very uncomfortable when first starting out, to the point, you are questioning why you even begun the journey in the first place; but if you really stop and think about it, you know why you started; you saw the end result. Now here’s where the pain comes in; trying to get to that end result. Where we start, and where we want to be, is a process – Lawd have mercy!!!

As my son was preparing for school this morning, the look was all over his face – I’m in pain. Again, I did what us mommas do, to make him comfortable; but this time, I shared these words of wisdom with him: “This is only a temporal situation, and in a few days, the pain will subside, and when this process is over, you will have a million dollar smile. So baby, you are going to have to push past the pain. In the meantime though, take this Aleve – lol.” Although it seems humorous, it’s what I had to do, to get him past that moment, and to get him to refocus on why he has braces.

In closing, if you are questioning why you started something that will eventually help make things better for you in the long run; be it weight loss (my forever battle), committing to a better you, exercising (another battle of mine), whatever it is, as there are so many things that we can choose from, girlfriends, “push past the pain”. Say to yourself, “this is just a process, that I have to get through. What I am doing, will work to my advantage, eventually”. I KNOW THAT’S RIGHT!!! Sometimes, we have to encourage ourselves, despite what we see, feel or even hear.

I hope you have a great rest of the day, and that you have a wonderful weekend, whatever it is you choose to do. And remember, push past the pain. Peace & Love…

Press Past Your Setback(s)

2010-10-11T17:09:00.003-04:00

Happy Monday Beautiful Ones – What’s happening? How was everyone’s weekend? I hope great – the weather was great. Let me share this with you – I AM OFFICIALLY, AN ENTREPRENEUR. That’s right, I said those words. Exhale…

Now, let me share with you the word that has been floating around in my mind – setbacks.

In life we have many of them, but the question is, what do you do when one occurs? Do you stop and just give up, or do you accept it, and continue to press forward. If you said, “accept it, and keep it moving,” then you are absolutely right. Life is full of setbacks, disappointments, confusion, etc. But the key is, you have to keep going, in spite of.

For the past six months or more, I have been quietly working on my passion; and although the day, that I was suppose to share this great news, I was faced, with a setback. Now my first impression was to break down and cry, because I had visualized my day completely different. And the vision that I had, and what I was physically seeing, were not matching up. But despite the circumstance, I pressed on any way. And let me tell you something – I received a blessing. What are you trying to say, you might ask? It is simply this; that despite your setbacks, still keep progressing. If one route doesn’t work, learn the lesson, and try another; you may find out, that that was the route, you were suppose to be on all along.

Sisters, I am the proud owner of the business: Exquisite Diamonds (http://www.iamanexquisitediamond.com/). And although I’m still working out some minor details, I know that this is a blessing that the Lord has ordained.

In closing, I leave you with this question, “What has He ordained in your life; and are you going to let a few setbacks stop you from getting to it?” Love you sister girls. Have a great rest of the day. Peace & Love

"Do You Girl"

2010-10-06T16:58:00.002-04:00

Happy Wednesday – Hey sisters, what’s happening! It is “hump day”. That means we are two days away from the weekend. Can you say yes? Today, I wanted to share something short and sweet, yet, poignant when you think about it. Every day at work, I listen to WDAS.FM, a radio station that I grew up on in Philadelphia. While I was shoveling papers, changing schedules, and sending emails, a song came on by Fantasia called, “I’m Doing Me” – a song where she is telling someone, it’s not that I don’t want to be loved, but I don’t need your craziness and drama in order to be with you. As I was grooving to the song, she said a lyric that caught my attention, and I immediately wanted to relay it to you. This particular line of the song can be used, in any friendship/relationship, (whether intimate or platonic) that you may find yourself being taking advantage of: “I’m doing me this time around; I won’t let your drama bring me down.”

Clearly in this song, she is talking about an intimate relationship, but I wanted to take it a step further. When you say those words, it gives you a sense of independence, and self worth. “Doing me” alone, are liberating words. So with that being said, I want you to think about, and internalize those words, and after you have done that, start thinking about the people you need to remove who constantly bring you drama and are damaging to your character. Start doing you sis, and enjoy the journey of knowing what you want, and what’s best for you. Remember, you deserve the best; and not some of the time, but all of the time.

Enjoy the rest of your day. Peace and Love….

"Sacrifice"

2010-10-05T14:41:00.000-04:00

Happy Tuesday Beautiful Ones – For months one word has been in my spirit: Sacrifice. As women, we sacrifice so much due to the many hats we wear. But this particular sacrifice that I’m talking about today, is the kind that you do when trying to accomplish a goal, or bring a vision, into fruition. This is a goal/vision that only you can understand and see. Even your love ones will not be able to comprehend, until they physically see the benefit of it. Therefore, if you have something that you are working on, that you know will bless others; know it is going to require sacrifice. Will it be easy; no. Some days you will be frustrated, as your plans don’t quite work out the way you think they should. Then other days, you will feel like giving up; but don’t. Keep plugging along; keep sacrificing, because in the end, it will be well worth it. Again, sacrificing is never easy. Matter of fact, if I can be honest, it can be very disheartening and discouraging at times. But take all of that, that you are feeling, and turn it into determination and drive, and flip discouraging into encouraging. Because trust me, encouraging times will manifest, and your heart, will begin to rejoice.

So In closing, whatever it is you are trying to accomplish, know that the reward of your sacrifice will be sweet. Have a great rest of the day. Peace & Love…

"I'm Feeling Greeaat"

2010-10-03T08:21:00.009-04:00

Happy Sunday Ladies - This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. How is everyone feeling on this beautiful day. In the words of Tony the Tiger, "I'm feeling Greeaat!!!" Yesterday, I had the opportunity to speak with one of the members of Literary Divas (www.blogtalkradio.com/diva29) - I will be their featured guest this month on their show "Diva's House. "This is a group that is very well known when it comes to the book world. They have interviewed just about every Author you can think of, and the fact that Reflections66 is now going to be apart of this phenom - can you say excited. I explained to the member that this is a new adventure for me and that I may need some coaching, but she assured me, that I would be fine. I don't know sisters; we will see....lol!!!

In closing, don't be afraid sisters to follow your dream, for you never know where it might lead you. Enjoy the rest of your day, wherever that may be. Peace & Love...

**Reflections66 is scheduled to be interviewed on Saturday, October 16th at 12n. Please check out the rest of the blog for more information.

"A Breath of Fresh Air"

2010-10-01T10:37:00.002-04:00

Happy Friday – Sisters, it has been a while since we last conversed. How is everyone, and how was your summer? Mine was good, despite all that was happening. But in the midst of it all, a silver lining has appeared. Very soon, I will be adding another hat to my repertoire – the Entrepreneur hat. Just saying those words, gives me butterflies. This is an area in which I never could conceive in my mind, just like writing my first book, even though I loved writing, or just like being a licensed cosmetologist at the age of 40, even though I had been doing hair since I was a young girl. This new adventure was something that has been in my heart for as far back as I could remember. Empowering sisters has always been my passion – I didn’t just stumble on this gift (leader and mentor) that God has given me. He gave it to me before I was formed in the womb. But knew I would only be able to handle it at this point in my life. That’s amazing. Just typing this and sharing it with you guys, brings tears to my eyes. People spend millions of dollars searching and seeking for the answer that we all ask ourselves from time to time: who am I, and what is my purpose? Well, it may have taken me forty – something years to figure it out, but dear God, I figured it out. It is a breath of fresh air.

In closing, whatever you are suppose to do, when the time comes, you will do it. You don’t have to tear anyone down in order to do it, you don’t have to be jealous of one who may be doing the same thing, all you have to do, is when your time comes – just do it, and bless the ones, that you are suppose to bless.

As time grows near, I will keep you abreast of the progress. Until then, my beautiful ones; enjoy your weekend. Peace & Love…

"The Wait Is Over"

2010-09-29T10:28:00.002-04:00

Sisters, I am back. The wait is over. If you want to know where I have been, well I will share with you. Stay tuned for updates. Love you all, and missed you so much.

Peace & Love...

"Oh How I Have Missed You"

2010-07-21T20:01:00.002-04:00

Happy Wednesday - Oh how I have missed you guys. How is everyone? All is coming along with me. I pray you guys are staying cool during this heat wave we are having. We were all praying for summer in the winter, because we were so sick of the snow; and boy, do we have heat now. There is so much to tell you, but I will do it in increments. Right now, I'm just so glad to be able to have the opportunity to speak with you. I hope every one's summer has been good thus far. Mine has been a little turbulent, but nothing that God can't bring me through. Right now, I am waiting patiently for my vacation in two more weeks - Yess!!! While on it, I hope to get most of my second book finished. I tell you guys, I am so excited about what's coming down the pike. The excitement is dancing all around on the inside of me. But with anything, patience has to be key. I believe in order to have something good, timing is everything. I would say more, but I'm going to stop here. Now with everything out of the way, I will be back on track like how we were before. Have a great evening....Peace & Love

"God Is Still Blessing"

2010-07-13T14:13:00.000-04:00

Happy “Self- Love” Tuesday – My dearest sisters, I have not forsaken you. I’ve just had so much going on over these past two months, and am still currently dealing with some things. As we speak, my family is going through a loss. I ask that you continue to keep us in your prayers. But despite all that is going on, God is still blessing – so I’m grateful for that.

I would like to share though, that Diamond Girls: Women of Substance will be undergoing a change - I am so excited about this. This change has been in my spirit for months. It is a change that I pray, will inspire us all to do what it is that we have down in our souls. As always sisters, I love you with an abundant love. I will chat with you soon. Peace and Love…

PS: If you haven’t told yourself that you love yourself today – Stop, and do it right now.

"Take a Break"

2010-07-04T14:46:00.002-04:00

Happy Fourth of July Ladies - I am in my hometown - Philadelphia. I know it has been a while since I last wrote in; so much has been going on. I literally, had to take a break, so that I could regroup, rethink and get some direction; it was so needed. Now, I'm back.

I think my last positing was the announcement of my new great niece. With that being said, we (our family) have been taking this time to help my niece adjust to motherhood, which in turn, has us all exhausted (lol). I remember when my grand-daughter was born, I didn't have the opportunity to become tired, because she lived in Philly. But can I share, having a newborn, is like having a job. Nonetheless, she is a beautiful joy.

I pray everyone is having a great holiday weekend with their friends and love ones, and that you are staying cool. The heat out there, ain't no joke. I'm waiting for the sun to go down, so that we can sit on the steps and porch, and reminisce about the good old days, like family normally does when they get together. Then after the sun goes down, and the moon begins to present itself, we will all try and find a spot, where we can all gather together and watch the fireworks that the city provides for the holiday. And then after that, we will come back to the same steps, and continue that same conversation we had before we left. In closing enjoy the time you have with your love ones; and yes, even the ones that get on your nerves, because you never know what the future holds. Ladies, be safe, have fun, enjoy life, and don't eat too much chicken and ribs (lol...) I love you all. Peace & Love....

"Haven't Forgotten You"

2010-06-23T16:27:00.002-04:00

Happy Hump-Day Wednesday - Sisters, I just wanted to tell you, that I haven't forgotten you, but I've just been busy with my niece and her new baby (my great niece). I will chat with you soon. Peace & Love...

"Impart Wisdom"

2010-06-21T21:27:00.002-04:00

Happy Motivational Monday - Ladies, I pray you all had a wonderful weekend with your special men, as we celebrated Father's Day Weekend. To my sisters who have to play the role of both mother and father, I salute you, and to my sisters who held it down this weekend, may you enjoy your time of rest. Today, was an exciting day for our family. Today, my niece delivered her baby girl; what a beautiful thing she is. As we all oohed and awwed, I got to thinking, about how precious it is to see a new life being born. The innocence of that child, is something, I believe, at times, we wish we could all go back to. As I sat and watched every ones' face expression, I said to myself, I'm feeling motivated to do something. What is it, you might ask? It is this - I am motivated to take all the lessons that I have learned as a young parent, and imparting them into my niece. Then my prayer for my niece will be, that she in turns, do the same thing for her daughter. I am motivated to be a mentor to my niece, and my great niece, as she walks out this thing called motherhood. Sisters, how many of us remember being a young mother and scared. Part of us thought we were grown because we had done a grown-up thing (having a baby), and part of us was scared to pieces, because there were times when we didn't know what to do when that baby cried uncontrollably. But looking at her today, I felt motivated to help her along this journey. Here a question for you: when you see a young mother, who you know don't know; does it motivate you to help her (if she allows you to), or do you just say to yourself; awe, she'll be alright. Will she? In closing, think about a young mother that you can help; you remember the proverb: "It takes a village to raise a child." Sisters, we are the wise villagers, that they need. Matter of fact, they need us more than they themselves know. Therefore, let's get motivated to share and help them. Peace & Love...

"Incredible Brothers"

2010-06-18T19:03:00.003-04:00

Happy Friday - Sisters, the weekend is here. Yessss. I have been so busy at work, until I haven't had the chance to talk with you; I've been just coming home crashing. Anyhow, I pray everyone has had a productive week, and that you accomplished all that you needed to do. For my sisters who have to go in this weekend, I pray your labor won't be too strenuous, and that the hours will fly by, and that you will be able to be back in the comforts of home in no time. Well ladies, it's Fathers' Day Weekend - what are you doing for your male counterparts? Are you going to dinner; did you fix dinner, or are you just having a quiet intimate weekend with the ones you love. Either way, it all sounds good. I'm excited for the brothers, because they do not get their just due and there are really some good and incredible brothers out there; I even wrote about them in my book; but, the media,and some of us females, only focus in on the negative ones. But this weekend, I want you, if you have a good brother, father, husband, son, uncle, cousin, nephew, grandson; roll out the red carpet for them; they need that. Think about it, if you want, you know they want it too; they want to feel like their efforts are not gone unappreciated either. And truthfully, they really do deserve to be shown some extra TLC, because if it wasn't for them, the blessings that we have called child(ren) wouldn't be here. So in closing, call up that good man, no matter who it is, and tell something good; something that will uplift his spirit. Let them know, that they are special too. Remember, they were created in the image and likeness of God...that alone makes them incredible. Love you sisters...have a great weekend. Peace & Love..

"I Love Me"

2010-06-15T20:28:00.004-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - All day today, I was trying to figure out what to say regarding loving ourselves...and then it hit me...that's it; just love yourself today. Every now and then, you have to do that. You have to get in that mirror, and remind yourself of how important it is to love yourself. If you don't, who will. Therefore, forget about every negative thing that has been said to you over the past day or so, and tell yourself, that despite what they say, I still love me. There is a freedom, and a self-validation when you say -- "I love me. " And check this out: the next time someone says something to make you feel less than, just tell yourself and them, "I love me", and what you say, (and tell them with some attitude) DOESN'T EVEN MATTER - HOW ABOUT THAT! Ooh girl, I feel that. As they say in church, "turn to your neighbor and say, I know that's right!" Have a great evening ladies. Peace and Love..

"She Is My Joy"

2010-06-14T21:28:00.005-04:00

Happy Monday - Ladies, how are you? Did you have a great weekend. To my sisters who held it down in this heat, I hope you are in some air somewhere chilling. I hope you guys didn't think I forget you - never that; I care about your well being too much. But if you remember, I shared that my grand-daughter was coming home. What a busy weekend. She is my joy. Matter fact, she is my motivation. Spending time, and seeing her face this weekend as she frolicked in pool, just warmed my heart. I don't know how many of you who have visited this site are grandparents, but if you are, isn't that the greatest feeling, and then the best part of that, is that you get to give them back. I love her, but after a while, she was starting to wear me out (lol). Ladies, I love you with a genuine love, but tonight, your girl is tired. Tomorrow, we will be back on track. But just to let you know, this week is Father's Day Weekend; if you have a shout out you want to give to a special man in your life this week, whether it be a husband, brother, son, uncle, father, boyfriend, or any positive brother that you think deserves a special accolade, feel free to leave a note. Have a restful night. Peace & Love...

"Friday..Where You At"

2010-06-10T22:18:00.002-04:00

Happy Thursday - All I can say is, Friday....where you at. Me and my sisters, are patiently waiting for you to show up...

"Trudge on Through"

2010-06-09T18:49:00.003-04:00

Happy Wednesday - It's hump day ladies, and thank goodness; two more days before the weekend, which by the way, I'm excited about. Ask me why? I'm glad you asked. Well, my grand-daughter is coming home. I try to see her at least once a month. She is the dearest thing to me; and although I am currently under the weather, I know once I see her smile, and hear her say "mom-mom", I will perk right up; she has that effect on me. I hope you guys had a great day today, and that you are eagerly looking forward to the weekend that's forthcoming. It has only been two full days, but I swear it feels like it has been a whole week already. Nonetheless, I will trudge on through these next two days. How about you? I need a vacation...anybody else feel that way. Have a restful evening tonight. Peace & Love...

"The Choice Is Yours"

2010-06-08T21:45:00.004-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - Good evening ladies, I pray you all had a wonderful day today. I'm happy, because I got out today and walked; that's two days in a row. I'm proud of myself. Let's just hope I stay consistent. As I was walking today, I got to thinking about choices. Just about everything we do is a choice. People can give us opinions all day long, but in the end, we make the final say so, or choice. So much is going on in many people's lives right about now; no one is exempt from trials and tribulations, and with these trials, comes a choice; they can either choose to succumb to the trials, or, they can choose to fight and still live a productive life regardless of the circumstances. And so it is with you, each day, when you look into that mirror at yourself. When you stare at yourself in your mirror, and don't particular care how you look, you can make a choice; you can either do something about it, or, you can accept and love yourself for who you are. But if I was you, I would choose to love what I see (unless of course you have to make changes for health reasons; and that's cool, because that's for the betterment of you). And you know why you should love you, because, you are a unique creation. There is no one like you - isn't that awesome! But again, to feel like that about yourself; the choice is yours. Have a restful night. Peace & Love...

"Slow Down, Breathe, and Relax - School is Out"

2010-06-07T19:22:00.003-04:00

Happy "Motivational" Monday - How was every one's weekend? Did you get a chance to get out in that gorgeous warm weather, despite the fact that it was hot and sticky. Did you find a pool or beach? Well I found the beach, but I didn't get in; I just enjoyed the time of walking on the boardwalk, and sitting on a bench to people watch. To all of my sisters who worked this weekend, I hope you had a great day, chilling out. I thought about what the motivation for today was, and it is this - relaxation. It is time to relax - school is almost out, or for some, out already; which means, at least for two months, no running to practices, games, or any other school activities, that our children had us doing while school was in session. I hate to admit it, but when they are in school, it's just like we are too. Now, you get a chance to relax. Instead of rushing down the highway because someone has a soccer game, you can now cruise, with your sunroof open, listening to music that you like, to put you in an after work, relax mode. Maybe now, you'll have a chance to stop to that new store you've been wanting to get to. As parents, we are constantly rushing; so while our children are out of school, just like they enjoy their summer break, you in turn begin to enjoy your time as well. That's right, slow down, breathe, and relax. Let's practice that over the next month or so, because you deserve a break too. Peace & Love...

"We Made It"

2010-06-04T19:10:00.002-04:00

Happy Friday - Ladies, all I have to say, is that we made it to the weekend. May you have a relaxing evening. Peace & Love...

"Join the Club"

2010-06-03T19:35:00.002-04:00

Happy Thursday - Hey sisters, tomorrow is Friday....yessss!!! My day was unbelievable, but thank God I made it through. At first, I felt like giving in to the feeling that was trying to make me feel funky; like I was the only one who has had this kind of a day, but something inside of me said, "join the club". I felt like sisters who have gone through that and worse, were saying, "this too shall pass"; so pull yourself together." And that is my sentiments to you tonight; the next time you have one of those days, where it feels like the bottom is falling out; remember, there is a club out there with some women, who are saying, "been there; done that", "pull yourself together baby, because this too shall pass." And trust me, it will. As you lie down tonight, before you close your eyes, thank God for your crazy day, and the fact that you survived, and who knows, you just might have a better one on tomorrow, but if you don't; square your shoulders, shake yourself, and say to yourself, "join the club girl." Have a restful night. Peace & Love...

"Who's Ready for the Pool or Beach"

2010-06-02T17:41:00.004-04:00

Happy Wednesday - Is it me; but does anyone feel like they are still throwed off, because we had off on Monday. I feel like I am a day late, and a dollar short. Yesterday I kept thinking it was Monday, and today, I think its Tuesday. But if I had any common sense, I should be happy, because we are two days away from the weekend. Now that I have gotten that out - what's happening ladies. Did we jump straight into summer or what? As June to me is the official summer month, I have one question - Who's ready for the pool or beach....I am...Iam. Even if you are not a beach goer, please remember to keep Sunscreen; with the sun bearing down on our skin, it is very important that we keep plenty of it. For most of us, we wear lotion; but if you can, this summer, try and purchase lotions that have sunscreen. Also, if you little ones, try and keep swim shoes on their feet and yours too. The sand at times can get so hot, that it can cause serious burns, and we don't want their little tootsies burned. And last but not least, if you must exercise outside, please, please, make sure you drink plenty of water. In closing, sisters, get your beach bag, your hat, your shades, your towel, and meet me at the beach or the pool. Can't wait to see yah!! Peace & Love...

"The Day After"

2010-06-01T18:41:00.003-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - Sistahs, it's the day after the holiday; and just think, we have to get past Fourth of July, Labor Day, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, and if your family is anything like mine - you will be eating up something. As I dragged out of bed this morning, I thought to myself, I ate way too much food, to the point, I'm dragging. Was I the only one; can someone please be honest enough and join in with me (ha..ha..ha). Anyway, I pray you all had a wonderful time with your families, and that you remembered the men and women who have fought, and are still fighting for us, so that we could sit down in peace and enjoy that time. As much as I hated it today, and as much as I didn't feel like; I got out there and walked. Walking has become my "self-love" motivation. I love myself enough to put my health first. Is it a challenge yes, but I love myself too much not to. So ladies, I pray that you join me, and begin to love yourself enough to exercise, and to take care of your body. I told yall before, we are, some bad mamma jammas. Therefore, don't let our health stop the world from seeing how bad we really are. Ooh, right there, I can here Michael Jackson singing, "you know I'm bad, I'm bad..you know it...whose bad...? - You are sisters, you are bad. Peace & Love...

"We Salute You Today"

2010-05-31T13:43:00.005-04:00

Happy Memorial Day - Ladies, I hope you have had a great weekend thus far. To all my sisters who held it down and made that time-in-a-half this weekend; loan your sistah $2o (lol). No, enjoy your time of rest; maybe someone will serve you today. I pray everyone arrived to their destinations without any problems (including not getting a speeding ticket); I know there are still some of us who can't control that lead foot.

This morning, as I flicked through the TV channels, I came across a Memorial Program that was dedicated to the war Veterans. As I watched this program, I was moved by the family members and children who were visiting the graves of their loved ones. I watched as one mother and daughter sung happy birthday to her husband and father, then they a showed a husband and wife crying over their son; the father whose grief was still very surreal, after his wife backed away, laid at his son's grave site and continued to cry. As I watched this, I started thinking: for some of them, this was their only child, and the only thing they are left with now, is a void and a memory. Think about that for a minute; losing your only child; it's bad enough losing any love one, but your only. You feel it don't you. Today, as we enjoy this day with our family members, let us not forget those who do not have theirs any longer, because they chose to serve their country to protect us. As I close, I leave you with what the Lord moved on my heart, that I shared on Facebook this morning: To all of the families whose love ones are serving for our safety, thank you for sharing them, for us; to all of the Veterans who have served and survived a war, thank you for service; and to all of those who have died to protect us, you are not forgotten -- we salute you today. Today, as we sit around the grill to celebrate and to give thanks, please remember to send a prayer up for those families whose hearts are heavy, and for our men and women who are serving our country. Peace & Love...

"Let's Get It Started"

2010-05-28T08:57:00.003-04:00

Happy Friday - It's the weekend, and it's time to party....so let's get it started. I want to know which family member cooks the best hamburgers and hot dogs. Which auntie makes the best potato salad, and last but not least who is a sho nuff crab eater. Please let me know, so that I came over please (lol)...No, just kidding, but sisters, girlfriends, mothers, aunties, cousins; have a great weekend!!! Peace & Love...

PS: Don't forget to be buckle up....

"Join the Club"

2010-05-27T20:34:00.002-04:00

Happy Thursday - Sisters, are you feeling it....is the excitement of the weekend starting to creep up on you...are you ready to let loose...than join the club. I am so looking forward to the holiday weekend. This weekend right here, is the indicator that summer is not far behind. Yeah!!! For those who decided to take off tomorrow, to start your weekend early - I'm jealous. Sike; enjoy. And just a quick reminder, if you are traveling this holiday weekend, don't forget to buckle up, pray, ease your foot up off the peddle some (for all us lead foot drivers) and enjoy the ride; we want you to arrive to your place of destination safe. Have a peaceful night tonight ladies. Peace & Love...

"A Cook-Out Throw Down"

2010-05-26T18:51:00.003-04:00

Happy Wednesday - Hey ladies, how are you, and, are you enjoying this beautiful weather? I hope where ever you live, that the sun is shining just as bright. Today is hump day, we are almost there; and being as though it is Memorial Day weekend, I'm sure you can't wait until Friday get here. How many cookouts, are you attending? I love when family gets together and have a good old fashion grub session; especially when the mommas get in the kitchen. Because when they get in there, you and I know, that they are about to throw down. So enjoy your night tonight, because after this evening, it's going to be on for the holiday weekend. Peace & Love...

"Layers"

2010-05-25T20:18:00.003-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - Beautiful ones, how are you today. All day I have been trying get to this page to share this with you - layers. When we talk about of layers most refer them to an onion, because it has so many. Some of the layers can be thick, and some of them, can be soft and delicate. So it got me to thinking about us, and how we have so many layers as well; and like the onion, some of our layers are thick, from where we have allowed so much to pile up on us, and some, are delicate, where as, it shows our sensibility and vulnerability. So as I pictured this onion in my mind, I started asking myself, and I pose the same question to you, what do our layers say out us, and what layers, do we need to take off or protect. The layer of hurt, pain, and bitterness, they, I imagine, are layers that should be removed immediately from our lives, as they will destroy the good part of us. The delicate layer of us, is the layer that needs to be protected, because it holds our feelings, emotions, and heart. So as I close, my thought to you tonight is, evaluate your layers; see which ones need to be removed expediently, and see which ones that need to be paid attention to, a little bit more. Have a great night sisters. Peace & Love....

"I Challenge You"

2010-05-24T11:42:00.000-04:00

Happy “Motivational” Monday – Sistahs, welcome back from your weekend, I pray it was spent doing what made you happy. To my single and married mothers who had to handle your business this weekend to provide for your families; sisters, enjoy your day. Last night as I retired to my bed, I was thinking of what to day today, and this is what hit me – challenge yourself. Challenge myself to do what, you might ask? Challenge yourself to eat right, to exercise, to love, to forgive, to grow, to soar to higher heights, to let go of the past and grab hold to your future, to laugh, to cry, to do whatever needs to be done, to become a better you. So often we challenge ourselves to things that are not beneficial to our well being. But as you can see, there are a lot of challenges that can propel us into someone that we never knew we could be. Ladies, we are the blessing that God created for our male counterparts and for our children. We set the example, and we have the power to shape and mold a child’s mind unto good works. Girlfriends, we are some bad mamma jammas. However, we have a tendency to lose focus of who we are. And losing focus doesn’t necessarily mean visually. Sometimes, we lose focus on our appearance, on our health, on our attitude (ouch), and of course, on our dreams and desires. So, as I close, I want to reiterate what the motivation for today is, and it is, to challenge yourself. I don’t know which challenge you may need to work on first, but which ever one it is, start working on it today. For me, my challenge has been my health. It’s a challenge for me to eat right. It’s hard to grab an orange, when I see that strawberry shortcake waiting for me to take a piece of it (lol). Anyways, let’s do what we can to encourage each other to meet those challenged goals. Remember, we are our sisters’ keepers. Peace & Love…

"An Informative Week"

2010-05-23T13:33:00.004-04:00

Happy Sunday - Good afternoon ladies, I pray you all have had a great weekend. To my sisters who have to hold it down today, we salute you. My apologies for missing yesterday, as I had a busy schedule. By the time I got home, my teenage son had invaded the computer with his homework project, that he knew he should have been done. Does anyone else have teenagers such as mine? Anyway, I pray that you will get a chance to rest today, from all of your weekend activities, and that you begin to focus back in on your upcoming work week. It has been a very informative week to me, regarding stroke awareness. It has caused me to prioritize some things in my life, starting first, with my health. I hope it has done the same for you. Ladies, enjoy the rest of your day. Peace & Love...

"Myth vs. Reality"

2010-05-21T19:08:00.003-04:00

Stroke Awareness Week

Ladies, sound the alarm, strike up the band, jump up and down,...because it's FRIDAY!!!!!! We made it to another week end. I pray you all had a great day today in this beautiful weather. I couldn't wait to get home, so that I could watch in peace, some of my shows that I had DVR'd during the week. But before I could relax really good, I wanted to share this quick tidbit with you: All week we have been talking about stroke awareness, starting on Monday with the leading causes, Tuesday, the two common strokes (although there are more), Wednesday, moving our bodies; the importance of exercise and healthy eating, last night, recognizing the signs, and tonight, we will talk about the myths and realities of strokes. Please see the following:

Myth - Strokes are not preventable
Reality - up to 80% of strokes are preventable
Myth - Strokes cannot be treated
Reality - strokes require emergency treatment
Myth - Strokes only strike the elderly
Reality - anyone can have a stroke
Myth - Strokes happen in the heart
Reality - a stroke is a "brain attack"
Myth - Stroke recoveries end after six months
Reality - stroke recoveries can last a lifetime

Again, this information that I share, that I have researched, is strictly for our health benefit; this is not my opinion. However, working in the healthcare field, allows me the opportunity to make us all aware of how important our health is. I hope you all have a great night tonight, doing what makes your heart happy. Although I have started my Fitness Class (I survived today), as a treat to myself, I'm going to curl up on the couch with a bowl of Butter Pecan ice cream. Shhh..., don't tell anyone. Peace & Love....

"Recognize the Signs"

2010-05-20T21:07:00.003-04:00

Stroke Awareness Week

Happy Thursday - Tomorrow is Thursday...and I'm so happy. How about you? Did you have a crazy week this week? Even if you didn't, aren't you still glad tomorrow is Friday. You get to go home and relax or for some, hang out with your girlfriends. Some of you might even want to go out and shake a tail feather. Whatever you choose to do, just know it will be FRIDAY!!!! Okay, now that I have gotten that out of my system, back to what I have been sharing all week. Today, I would like to talk about recognizing the signs, that would let you know, that you are having a stroke:

If you suddenly have blurred vision,
If you suddenly have a piercing headache, unlike any other you have had before,
If your your speech becomes slurred,
If you have sudden tingling and numbness in your arm and leg on one side and,
If you suddenly lose your balance

If you or any of your loved ones have any signs of these symptoms, you, or someone near you, must call 911 immediately. The quicker you act, the better the chance for you are your loved one. Again, this is very serious. People are having strokes more frequently, due to poor health habits. We have the power to change these habits, by taking control of our health. I pray this has been helpful to you tonight, and that you will take serious consideration, of taking your health back. Your family and friends need you. Peace & Love...

"Move that Body"

2010-05-19T18:34:00.003-04:00

Stroke Awareness Week

Happy Wednesday - It is hump day...we are almost there ladies. I pray this inform that have been sharing this week has been helpful and thought provoking. Today, as I was sitting with my Fitness Plus Instructor, I shared what I was doing, and she gave this advice from a cardio standpoint:

Exercise - Another cause of stroke, is obesity. Being overweight, increases our risk of diabetes, high blood pressure, and other factors. Therefore, it is important that we get proper exercise for our bodies. You don't have to be over the top; you can work at your own pace, but as long as you are doing something, to keep the body moving, you are fine.

Eating Right - Getting plenty of fruits, vegetable, and proteins, are all apart of stroke prevention. Each day, try and choose a vegetable or a fruit to supplement the fatty foods that we tend to eat for comfort. It's a sacrifice, but it will be well worth it in the end. Besides, you owe that to yourself.

I thanked her for this information, and felt it was suitable enough to share with you. Starting Friday, I will be back in fitness class...wish me luck, because she is an instructor who does not play. But it's all for the betterment of me.

I pray you ladies have had a great day today, and that tonight, you will think about these suggestions and start your own plan, for getting healthy. Peace & Love...

"Main Common Strokes"

2010-05-18T07:39:00.006-04:00

Stroke Awareness Week

Happy Tuesday - Good morning ladies, are we up and about on this rainy Tuesday. I'm dragging just a little, but I'm going to keep moving, I'm sure I will get some energy as the day progresses. Today, I want to share with you, as we are doing Stroke awareness, what is a stroke, and the two main common strokes (although there are more) that affect people. Please see:

A stroke occurs when there's a problem with the amount of blood in your brain. The causes of the main type of stroke: ischemic stroke - where there is too little blood in the brain & hemorrhagic stroke - where there is too much blood within the skull.

Ischemic stroke - About 80% of strokes are ischemic strokes. They occur when the arteries to your brain are narrowed or blocked, causing severely reduced blood flow (ischemia). This deprives your brain cells of oxygen and nutrients, and cells may begin to die within minutes.

Hemorrhagic stroke - Hemorrhagic stroke occurs when a blood vessel in your brain leaks or ruptures. Hemorrhages can result froma number of conditions that affect your blood vessels, including uncontrolled high blood pressure (hypertension) and weak spots in your blood vessel walls (aneurysm).

I'm not putting this information out by no means to frighten you, but to get you to thinking about some changes that may help us all to live a long, productive, and prosperous life. Peace & Love...

"The Leading Causes"

2010-05-17T18:01:00.002-04:00

Stroke Awareness Week

Happy Monday - Hey sisters, I pray you all had a wonderful weekend, doing what you wanted to do; I opted to rest. For my sisters who held it down to provide for their families, much love to you; enjoy your time of solitude. In case anyone has forgotten, I am dedicating this week to Stroke Awareness, as May is the month for that. Working in the healthcare field, I have the opportunity to see a host of health care issues. Therefore, each month, I feel as though it is important to update you, or make you aware of symptoms, or preventative measures, that may save our lives. And if any of you have things, that you want to bring awareness to, feel free to do so.

Leading Causes to a Stroke:

A family history of strokes
Cigarette smoking
Heart attacks or TIAs (transient ischemic attacks)
High blood pressure
High cholesterol

These are just a few causes that may affect us all in some area of our lives; out of five of them, I have to confess, that I am guilty of two. Which one(s) of them describes you? Which ever one does, just know, that we have work to do concerning our well being. Ladies, we are our sister's keepers, therefore, make your sister aware of how important she is to you, and how important her health is. I pray you have a peaceful night. Peace & Love...

"No Longer the Same"

2010-05-16T16:17:00.003-04:00

Happy Sunday - Good afternoon sisters. I pray you all had a wonderful day today where ever you spent it. This morning as I was lying in bed, I heard a preacher (Bishop TD Jakes) say, "once you have fought in a major battle, when you come out of it, you are no longer the same." Now the battles that he named were many: health, finances, despair, depression, loss, etc. And I got to thinking about some of my own personal battles, and if you will, start thinking about some of the ones you have come through. I'm going to give you a few minutes. See, you are feeling aren't you, you are feeling the same thing that I am, tremendous joy. The fact that you came out of it, in your right mind, and with another lease on life, another opportunity to live, it makes you want to holler. His message was so good, until right there in my bed, I began to give God praise. I don't know about you, but in my 44 years of living, I have been through some major battles. And not only did I come out of them, but I came out with some battle wounds that reminded me, that I am an overcomer. How about you, are you an overcomer? I think you are. So every now and then when a battle comes your way, don't run from it, ask God for the strength and courage to get through it, because trust me, when you come out, you will no longer be the same. Sisters, put your war face on, get your battle song going, and with the backing of the Lord, fight your battle. Peace and Love....

"Your Passion"

2010-05-15T18:21:00.004-04:00

Happy Saturday - Today ladies have been such a beautiful day; what did you do to enjoy it. Did you get out and walk, shop, or perhaps chill somewhere with a good book. Whatever you did, I hope you had a chance to experience the warmth of the sun today. I had the opportunity to speak to a few ladies today, regarding hair care and beauty starting from within. I loved it, for that is my passion. Which brings to this question. Have you started working on the project that is passionate to you, and if you haven't, what are you waiting for? Today is your day to start it. I'm not saying that it's going to manifest today, but what I am saying, is that you can at least start the planning process. Write down your thoughts, and when it's time, you will know which direction to go. See, you're thinking about it aren't you. You can do it. Alright, don't let me hold you any longer. Get that pen and paper and start writing out your passionate project. Peace & Love...

"Yesss...."

2010-05-14T19:57:00.005-04:00

Happy Friday - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.....Hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah!! I don't know about you, but this week felt like it was dragging. This morning when I got up, I was like, yesss; I'm going in, and as soon as the clock strikes, 5pm, I am out the door. That was my plan, but apparently, the paperwork on my desk had another. So no, I didn't leave at 5pm, and as I was running out the door almost 45min to an hour later, people were still trying to get me to talk. Do you have those kind of Friday's sometimes? You are counting down, and just when you think you are almost at home base, you get stuck on third. Sistahs, it has been a week, I hope you get a chance to relax your mind, body and spirit, doing the things that you love to do. I think I'm going to turn in early, as my body needs total peace. You have a great evening, and prayerfully, I will chat with you on tomorrow. Peace and Love...

"Come on Friday"

2010-05-13T21:59:00.002-04:00

Happy Thursday - This is how I'm feeling tonight ladies....10, 9, 8, 7, 6,...we are almost there to our special day, Friday. I want it to hurry up. How about you? So come on Friday. We are anxious awaiting you. Have a restful night tonight ladies. Peace & Love...

"Live"

2010-05-12T20:20:00.002-04:00

Happy Wednesday - It's hump day sisters...we are on the other side, of the beginning of the week, on our way down the hill to the weekend. All day today, it has been on my mind to share this with you, as it has been disturbing to me. Last week when leaving out of the cafeteria, I saw a big display about the warning signs of a Stroke. As I read the signs, I had to admit to myself, that I have at least three of them. That is so not cool, I thought to myself. But then on yesterday, when I heard the news of Vice President, Joe Biden's 41 (just three years younger than me) year old son, Beau Biden, having a stroke, I decided right then and there, that it is time to take action. Therefore, I decided, that all next week, will be dedicated to Stroke knowledge and awareness; the causes and what preventative precautions we can take in order to keep it from happening to ourselves, as well as, our love ones. If you have read over the blog, you will see that May is the month of Stroke Awareness month. Therefore, I'm going to do my best to make us aware. Life is precious, and we should never take it, or our love ones for granted. Ladies, we still have a lot of loving and living to do, so let's do, just that. "LIVE!"

"The Definition of You Is..."

2010-05-11T19:47:00.004-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - Hey everybody. It seems like it is getting later and later, that I get a chance to write. I have had a lot going on. However, it does not stop my mind from producing things to share with you. A while back, I shared the thought of people defining who you are by the way they think. And so, I'm back on that kick today, as it has dropped in my spirit again. I don't know who is going through this, but you have to always remember, that you should never let anyone define who you are; you were defined in your mother's womb. People have a tendency to tell you who you are, and what you should and shouldn't do according to the way they see things. But did you forget, that you have your own mind, and that it's best for you to do what pleases you and not them. Let them figure out their own definition. In typing this, I feel like someone wants to do, or wants to become something, but will not, because of the thoughts of people. Girl, listen, tune them right on out, and start doing what it is that you have been daydreaming about. And even if it doesn't pan out the way you want it to, take satisfaction in knowing, that at least you tried. That's probably more than what "they" have done. Here is something that I want to leave with you. A long time ago, while sitting in the cafeteria eating lunch, the people that came in and out, began to catch my attention. As I watched them, I could see through their face expressions, some who loved their job, some who had to work (as we all do), and some, who were just plain miserable. The ones who appeared miserable, were not only that, but they were angry. When they spoke, they were negative, and when asked to do something, they did it gripping and complaining. It was right then and there, I said, I never want to be like that. But then it hit me, these people have never had a chance to do anything they wanted to do. They have been doing everything for everyone, because they were too afraid to do something different, because of what other people thought. That to me is enough to make you miserable, because when you get older and look back, you'll say to yourself, what have I done for me. So what does that have to do with defining you, you might ask? It is this, if people must define you, let them define as being a person who had the courage to do what you desired, to make your mark in this world. Let them define you by saying, that she never listened to peoples' opinions, but rather kept her faith in God, and allowed Him to direct her to her destiny. You know my favorite words..."Do you sis, and be happy, while doing your thing." Peace & Love....

"Get Out Of That Bed"

2010-05-10T20:10:00.003-04:00

Happy "Motivational" Monday - I'm so sorry ladies, but I was so out of it today; I stayed up last night watching the interview of Minister Louis Farrakhan with Cathy Hughes, and I must say, it was a very interesting interview. Anywho, I pray you all had a great Mother's Day on yesterday. Did your love ones make you feel special? And even if they didn't, just know that you are special anyway, and no day can take that away from you. I didn't have too much to say today about motivation, except, get out of that bed. I know your weekend was probably busy, and you wanted to lay, just a few minutes more, but knew that you had to get a move on. Well sister, join the club; I'm sure it was a plenty others, who felt the same way, including me. As always, to my weekend sisters who have to hold it down, whether it was Mother's Day or not, I pray you had a restful day today and, that you at least had a chance to celebrate Mother's Day for a few minutes. In closing, I'm gong to say this, "tonight, I'm going to act like I have some sense and go straight to bed." But before I do that, I had to say hello. Peace & Love...

"It's Your Day"

2010-05-09T19:05:00.003-04:00

Happy Mother's Day - Today ladies is the day that you can take a bow, prop your feet up, pat yourself on the back, dance to music, lay around; whatever you feel like you want to do on this day that has been set aside for you. I hope that you were showered with love, by your love ones. And in the words of my good friend Cheryl, of Moms R The Best, "a mother's work is never done", I totally agree, but I wouldn't trade motherhood for nothing in the world. We have the power to shape lives, and to me, that is a beautiful thing. Sisters, you deserve this day. Love you, and enjoy the rest of your evening. Peace and Love....

"Gone But Not Forgotten"

2010-05-08T21:52:00.003-04:00

Happy Saturday - I pray you are having a great weekend thus far. It hit me today, as I was chilling, that I didn't want to leave out the mothers who have since passed on, but have left a legacy through you. I acknowledge them today and may they rest in peace. They may be gone, but they are not forgotten. And, as much as I hate to think about it, but I know it's a reality, if you had a mother, who was not so motherly for whatever reason, thank God that He has given you the opportunity now, to become a mother, so that you can do better. Peace & Love beautiful ones...

"Kick Off Your Heels"

2010-05-07T21:43:00.002-04:00

Happy Friday - Sisters, ladies, girlfriends; we have made it to the end of the week. How many of you came home, and just kicked off your heels tonight, as you plopped down on the couch? Isn't that a wonderful feeling? Every now and then, you have those kind of weeks, where you come in the door, and throw your keys one place, your purse another, and your shoes, some where else. And if you've really had a rough week, you head straight to the tub, load it up with bubbles, lock the door (no disturbance please) and then you take you a long hot bath until the water turns lukewarm.(lol) Doesn't that sound good. Anyhoo, this weekend, is Mother's Day weekend. My prayer is, that you all have a great one, and that you enjoy every heartfelt accolade and gesture that is given to you by your love ones, on that special day. Peace & Love....

"Get Some Rest"

2010-05-06T21:52:00.004-04:00

Happy Thursday - Ladies, I am so glad tomorrow is Friday...that's all I got tonight. Oh and this,...have a restful night. Peace & Love...

"Don't Limit Yourself"

2010-05-05T20:11:00.003-04:00

Happy Wednesday - Sisters, it's hump day...we are almost there; can you see that weekend, can you feel it. I'm ready for it, how about you? I was thinking today about something a friend of mine said a week or so ago, if not sooner, that I found to be so true, and that it is: the people that you expect to be there for you, are usually not the ones. But rather, it's the strangers, the one's you least expect, who end up coming to your rescue. And as I thought about that, because I am truly experiencing it too, the Lord dropped this in my spirit. Blessings can come from anybody, and yes, I'm going to say it; even your enemies. The reason why we become so hurt when the people who we think it should come from doesn't come through, is because, we have only limited our circle to just those people. But what happens when they can come through, do we stop what we are doing because they are not there, or do we expand our horizons to new things and people who may have the keys to open our doors. So don't limit your vision or mind; open it up and receive the blessings from which ever way the Lord wants to give them to you, and yes, even if it's from your enemy. If your enemy blesses, it's only because God has moved on their heart. Ask me how I know. As always sisters, you know, I got nothing but love for you. I pray you have a restful night tonight, and that you wake up tomorrow with a goal and a purpose, and remember don't limit yourself to just your circle...enlarge your territory. Peace & Love...

"Not the Prototype"

2010-05-04T20:28:00.004-04:00

Happy "Self-Love" Tuesday - Today was a crazy day, and I couldn't wait to get home. How was yours; hopefully not as whacky as mine. Anyhow, something hit me today, that I wanted to share and that is, self-confidence. Often times, we struggle with who we are. We look unto others to give us an identity, but really, we already have our own identity, we just have to work at figuring out how to present who we are to others. Trying do what others do to get attention, may not always be a good thing. Trust me, some people, you really don't want to be like them. Often times, what we see, is really not how it appears. Sometimes most of the things that people try to portray, is a cover-up of what is really happening. So, in the end, work on you; be the best you, you can be. Build your confidence by doing things that show integrity, and compassion. Be authentic in your character, because in the end, all that you thought was glittering in others, if you get real close, you will see that it was fake, all along. Have your own self-confidence, and strut your stuff, because in your heart, you will know that you are not a prototype, but you are the real deal, whether others accept it or not. Just know, that you know. Peace & Love sisters....

"A Spark of Motivation"

2010-05-03T17:31:00.003-04:00

Happy "Motivational" Monday - Each week ladies, we meet back here at this day; sometimes we want to see it come, and some days, we want to delay it a couple of more days - agree. I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend, as it was so gorgeous out. Today, I was feeling a bit tired from all that I had done over the weekend - which as you can see from previous posts, was fabulous. But if I must be honest, the thing that I enjoyed the most, was spending quality time with my grand-daughter; she is truly my motivation and inspiration. Motivation can be sparked by so many different things, and my grand-daughter is the spark that ignites me. She motivates me to want to do better by my health, because I know in doing so, it gives me the longevity I need to run with with her, to read books with her, to take trips with her, and to just enjoy her company. I want to be around to see her have her first competition, her first recital, or anything that she might perform in. And if God is gracious enough to me, prayerfully, I will be around to see her have her own babies one day. But I say all of that, to ask you this: what and who motivates you? Whatever and whoever it is, think about it, or them when you feel like you have none. Maybe picture their face, or see that vision, and grab a hold to it. I bet you when you do so, that some energy will come, a smile will come across your face, and you will begin to move with a purpose. Have a great day today sisters. Peace & Love...

"Grateful"

2010-05-02T14:36:00.003-04:00

Happy Sunday - I pray every one is having a great day, and that you will get a chance to enjoy the beautiful weather, if you haven't yet. If you went to the House of God, I hope you gave Him all the praise and glory that He so rightly deserves, for the things that He has done for you and your love ones. Today, I want to share the word grateful, because that's what I felt this weekend, when I was with my friends. As we laughed and reminisced about the good ole days, somewhere, in the midst of that, for just a quick second, I looked around at all of us enjoying each other's company, and thanked God for His grace, for allowing us to see each other's faces once again. This weekend to me, was a weekend of what Philadelphia is truly known for: brotherly love, and sisterly affection; that's what we shared. Although we are all spread apart throughout the states, we came home to the place that truly felt like home to us, to bond. And for that, I am grateful. What were you grateful for this weekend? Peace & Love....

"A Lasting Bond"

2010-05-01T17:36:00.004-04:00

Happy Saturday - Hey Ladies, how is everyone doing on the beautiful day. Are you out there enjoying this beautiful weather? Girl, if you haven't gotten out there, you are missing something good. I'm very excited today, because I am with my best friends. These women, I have known since high school - we are majorettes. The reason why I am overjoyed, is because we have not seen each other for more than 10 years. Each day we talked, concerning this day today, you could hear the excitement in our voices; to us, this is like a homecoming. From high school, through life's ups and down, up until now, we have kept a bond that has been inpenetrateable. Sisters, if you have a friend or friends such as these women, don't let anything, get in the way of that. Real and true genuine friendships, are like a needle in the haystack. In the world of texting, I leave you with acronym, cherish your BFF. Peace & Love.....

"It's Fridayyyy - Wooohoooo!!!!"

2010-04-30T08:22:00.005-04:00

TGIF Sisters - The weekend is here!!!!!! Tell the Lord thank you, for bringing you through yet, another work week, without you having to go postal on some of your customers or co-workers; because they can take you there sometimes (lol). For at least two days, we are free from the 8-4, 9-5, or whatever your 5-day a week hours are, grind - Ladies, on your mark (because I see some of you right now, watching the clock, and you just got to work - girl I know how you feeling), get set, and go; let your hair down, turn on some music while you're driving down the highway, throw on something comfortable when you hit the door, grab a book or magazine, or whatever makes you happy, and chill. If you have had a hectic week, you owe it to yourself, just for a few seconds to de-stress, and just "do you." You might even have to lock yourself in the bathroom, to keep family from bothering you, just to get those few moments (I used to do it all the time when my boys were younger); you got to get your time in, where ever you can find it. As I type that, I start laughing, because the one child of mine, would sit right outside the door until I got out. Does anyone else have a child or children like that? Children, got to love them. On another note, I heard via the weather man, that the weather is going to be gorgeous. So ladies, get out there, take a walk, do some shopping, take a day trip, call up a good girlfriend, and enjoy your weekend. Hollah!!!!

" Just Be Kind"

2010-04-29T23:22:00.004-04:00

Happy Thursday - Sisters, we are one day away from the weekend. I was so busy writing on Part II of Reflections66, that I forgot to write you tonight. Today, I spoke with two extraordinary, confident women, who gave me sound advice. Even though this was apart of their job description, I felt, as we talked, that we made a great connection of sisterhood. Growing up, my mother always taught me to treat people kind; sometimes they would accept my kindness, and sometimes they would reject it, but nonetheless, I remained kind. I've learned in being kind, that God will open doors for you that is unconceivable in your mind. Not only will He open the doors, but He will place people on the other side of that door, that will have the same spirit as you, instantly causing a lasting bond. These sisters that I spoke to today, I could tell, were sisters who had been on the same path of life as I had at some point in their lives, which in turn, helped them to see the vision/mission and purpose that I am in the process of getting underway. As we laughed on similar topics, I realized, that this was not just about a call to ask for help, but this was divine purpose, and it all came about, because of an act of kindness on my part and on their's. That's the word for tonight, kindness. Just be kind, and see where it gets you. Again, some will accept it, and some will reject, but in the end, you still remain kind, because in doing so, you will never know what road that act or gesture will lead you down. I leave you with this scripture: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32) Peace & Love sisters...

"Lighten Up & Laugh"

2010-04-28T21:59:00.004-04:00

Happy Wednesday - We are two days away, from the weekend. Are you getting those weekend plans ready? I know I am. I pray everyone had a great day today. Mine, felt like I should have been on the show, "Bloopers", that's how crazy it got. Have you ever had those kind of days? Oh don't make me feel like I'm the only one (LOL). Anyway, but you know what I did, when something simple happened today, I laughed at myself. I told myself, "self, you are too funny". I did that, because that's what you have to do every now and then; laugh at yourself. Too often, we get stressed and frustrated with ourselves, when things don't go our way; which in turn, causes us to become moody and cranky with people who have nothing to do with our own personal madness. So, if you had a crazy day, to the point you felt like screaming, stop, and take that time to laugh at your quirkiness. I guarantee, you will feel so much better. With that being said, I'm going to leave you with these words, "peace, love & hair grease." Sound corny, oh well...lighten up, and laugh; it's good for the soul. Peace & Love...

"Materialism vs. Happiness"

2010-04-27T11:28:00.001-04:00

Happy “Self-Love” Tuesday – Morning sisters; I pray everyone had a restful night. I went to bed early last night, as I was feeling a little under the weather, but thanks unto God, I feel a better this morning. As I was driving down the highway this morning, the thought came to my mind – materialism vs. happiness. Last night as chilled in bed, I watched the show, “Basketball Wives” – that was different. As I looked at the life that these women live, a part of me became sad for them. They had all of these beautiful things (materialism), but wasn’t neither one of them happy. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t obtain nice things, because God knows, I love nice things, but having nice things and being happy, are two different conditions. As I continued to watch these women, and by all means, I’m not being judgmental, because I know they have paid a price in order to obtain all of what they have, but I had to wonder, if they didn’t have all of that, would they be any happier. And then this dropped in my spirit: having every piece of materialism that we desire, and being able to do whatever we feel like when we want to, doesn’t make us any more happy, or special, than who God has already created us to be. Baby we were infused with greatness long before those “so-called famous people” ever came into our lives. Therefore, whether you have these things or not, happiness should always come from within. Materialism should never make us, we make it. If you think about it, materialism has no life until we purchase it, and bring it alive by the way we wear it, drive it, or decorate it. Materialism should never represent the true essence of us; only we can do that. My mother told me years ago, when my husband left me with a newborn baby, “happiness baby, starts from within, it doesn’t come in the form of people or what they can do for you. She went on further to say, “people will come in and out your life until the day die; you mean to tell me when they leave, your happiness goes right out the door with them.” I never forgot that. So, as I finished watching the show, I said, please dear God, never allow me to be driven by materialism, to the point, I forget who I am, because whether I have those things or not, I’m still going to be happy, and me. What are you going to be? Peace & Love…

"I Won't Complain"

2010-04-26T13:29:00.001-04:00

Happy “Motivational” Monday – Welcome back, to our favorite day; I hope everyone had a great weekend. To my sisters who held it down this weekend, enjoy your day of rest, on this rainy afternoon. For the first time, since I started this blog, I don’t think I’ve ever missed a day of writing, but this weekend, my body told me to rest; and I obeyed it. It be like that sometimes. I don’t know if what I have to share with you today is motivational, as much as it more inspirational. Today, as I walking from the parking lot heading into my place of employment, I saw something that I see occasionally, but today, for some reason, I paid special attention to it. At every place of employment, you have "special needs" persons who come to work. But what hit me today was, although we find time to complain about trivial things about our place employment, at least, we have full mobility and capability to do our jobs without complications. If you think about it, we don’t have the following issues: someone helping us from a car to a wheel chair, and then wheeling us in to work; we don’t have someone who has to help us to the bathroom, when we need to go, and we don’t have anyone, who has to help us to eat, when it’s our time for lunch. As I got closer to my “special needs” co-workers, I noticed something – they were saying good morning and smiling, like they were the happiest people in the world; and as far as I was concerned, they were; their energy and enthusiasm, perked me up better than my cup of extra caffeine coffee, from WaWa’s, did. I politely greeted them all by name, and smiled back. But as I headed towards the elevator, I said to myself, and why do I complain again about trivial things? I don’t know; but seeing them today, whom I see every day riding along in the halls, reminded me once again, how blessed we are, not that they aren’t too, but it opened my eyes, on how we should never take the small, simple things, like walking, seeing, hearing, breathing, and yes, working at that job that we find so much to complain about, for granted. This may not motivate you or maybe it will, depending on how you receive it, but prayerfully, it will give you something to think about today. Peace & Love sisters..

"Ahhhh, Friday"

2010-04-23T19:55:00.003-04:00

Happy Friday - What can I say, but ahhhhh, Friday has finally shown it's face. Ladies, I pray you get some much needed rest tonight, and that you enjoy your weekend. To my sisters who have to get out there tomorrow, and hit that clock, do it with a smile, even though you may not feel like it. Just keep telling yourself, I'm doing this for my baby/babies, and it's not going to be like this always. For me, I'm going to read my Essence Magazine (I hope) and chill with my son. Sweet dreams sisters....

"Share Your Life to Save A Life"

2010-04-22T21:12:00.003-04:00

Happy Thursday - I'm so glad we are a few hours away from Friday. First and foremost, I pray everyone has had a wonderful day. I feel a bit exhaused between working a fulltime job, and then part-time doing hair. When I have to do both in one day, by the time I get home, I'm dragging. But, no matter how tired I am, I always like to say something to you. Tonight, I want to discuss something that took me back to my own thoughts at one point, and that is the thought of suicide. Today, as I listened to the Michael Baisden show, I listened to him talk about one of his friends who had committed suicide. And with that being said, he stated how he, himself, at one point had contemplated the same thing. That then, prompted me to think about the time that I had the same thoughts at one point in my life. What's your point you may ask? My point is this, if you know of someone that you think could be feeling depressed and destitute (your friends, or even within your family) enough that they think that committing suicide is the only way to go, please, get them some help. And even if you have felt like that, but the Lord was gracious enough to keep your mind from going that route, share your story. In doing so, you just might save a life. That's it...Think about this, and let me know your thoughts. Peace & Love...

"I'm Excited"

2010-04-21T16:49:00.000-04:00

Happy Wednesday – I pray everyone is having a great day today; the weather here is chilly and rainy. Can somebody please find Spring for me? Today as I prepared for work, I felt excitement rising up in me; I don’t know why, but it just was. I was thinking, I could be feeling this way, because, I just made it past another hurdle, which was trying to prevent me from moving forward towards the vision I see ahead of me. In life, we have so many hurdles, and we will continue to have them, until our time here on earth is done. But it’s how we handle them that get us to the finish line of our destiny. Here lately, I’ve been relishing in the fact that I’m 44 – where are all my 40 and over, sisters at? Anyway, as I’ve been going down memory lane of my adolescent and presently, my adulthood years, I can’t help but to think about all the things that I have gone through; some were good, some were bad, and some, I thought, I was never going to see the light at the end of the tunnel; but guess what, I did, and I’m sure you did too. So that’s why I’m excited; because yet again, I have made it over, another hurdle. And if you have just done the same thing too, then you need to join me, so that we can celebrate together. See, it’s the little things, which may bring a smile to our face, put some pep in our step, or, bring some excitement to our spirit. Now will you feel like this every day? No, but if you are feeling like this today…then do your happy dance, because rest assure, another hurdle is surely waiting for us. Peace and Love….

"Stop"

2010-04-20T15:30:00.001-04:00

Happy “Self-Love” Tuesday – I woke up this morning thinking of something to share today, and the only thing that kept coming to my mind was, “pause, and give your self some love today”. Yep, I’m back on that kick again, because if you haven’t noticed, we’re right back (it doesn’t take long) in the thick of things again; taking care of everyone else’s needs, and once again, forgetting our own. But I’m saying today, stop, and pause, and make it about you, even if it’s only for a few moments. Just for a few moments, put everybody on hold, and go and get you a cup of coffee or tea or whatever beverage you prefer, and find a secluded corner, and just relax, your mind, body and spirit. If your cell phone rings, hit the ignore button (that’s a beautiful button sometimes); unless it’s the children (and even sometimes you have to put them on hold) or the Publishing Clearing House with your 10 million dollar check (lol) call them back, after your moment is over. Before rushing off to grab the children, think about what you’re going to have for dinner, pick the clothes up from the dry cleaners, etc, stop. Instead of running out the office door, take your time, and walk out; if you don’t catch the dry cleaners today, it will be alright; wear something you already have in the closet. When you enter into the market, don’t fly down the aisles like the Tasmanian devil; take your time, and pick out something quick, but nutritious for your family, and instead of cooking it all by yourself, have them to join in with you. What are you trying to say Cook? I’m saying, "JUST STOP FOR A MINUTE" and gather “your” thoughts. We will miss so much, doing so much. My mother had a saying, “you are busy doing nothing.” I use to laugh at that statement, but as I got older, I understood what she meant. So, take a minute for you, and stop being so busy taking care of the affairs of everyone’s needs. Stop, and love you today. That’s it sis go for what you know; you deserve all the love that you give yourself today. Peace & Love…

"Something Good Is Getting Ready to Happen"

2010-04-19T15:25:00.000-04:00

Happy Motivational Monday – Welcome back ladies, to our favorite day of the week. I pray everyone had a great weekend. For all my sisters who held it down over the weekend, get some rest. This morning I was up with the roosters, with the feeling of something good, is getting ready to happen and break forth, even though everything around me is crazy. Can anyone identify with me on that? It’s like you can feel it with every fiber of your being, to the point, it’s almost tangible. And if you are not focused, you will let your emotions get the better of you, and will start freaking out, rather than seeing the process that is taken place, for what it is. So what does this have to do with motivation? It is this, use the craziness of the process as a motivator, and begin preparing yourself for the change that is about to take place in your life. For it is that change, that is going to put you in the place, where your heart desires. Can you see yourself there? Can’t see it; look again real hard. There you go…you visualize it don’t you? Side bar: You should also know, that when things start getting out of control, and nerve racking, that something wonderful is about to happen. So don’t fall apart, instead, invite this change, for it is for the betterment of you, and those who are attached to you. Sis, you are getting ready to be such a blessing to so many other people. Matter fact, I’m getting ready to stand in your line, because I need a blessing right now. Peace & Love….

"Live"

2010-04-18T22:30:00.003-04:00

Happy Sunday - I didn't think I was going to write anything tonight, as I was feeling a little sleepy. But then, I got to thinking, that would be a first since the day I started this blog thing. And although I don't have much to say, I wanted to share this one word that was confirmed again this evening as I celebrated our Friends and Family Day at our church; and that word is, "LIVE". Nothing more, nothing less. It's time to live people. Whatever is holding you back from the abundant life that God has given you, you need to re-evaluate it. But that's the word and thought for tonight - "LIVE" (Ps 118:17). Are you living, or are you just existing? Think about it. Peace & Love...

"A Chance to Chill"

2010-04-17T18:02:00.003-04:00

Happy Saturday - I pray everyone had a restful night last night, and that you rose this morning feeling well rested and refreshed. I don't have much to say today, as it has been one of those kinds of days where you just sit home and chill out, and enjoy the comforts of not having to run for a change. For me, it gives me a chance to read my Essence magazine (May Issue) with my favorite girl on there, Jill Scott, do a little writing, and be carefree. The weather is beautiful today, and I hope that you have had a chance to go out and experience it. Alright sisters, enjoy the rest of your day, and I will chat with you later. Peace and Love...

"Do Your Thing Girl"

2010-04-16T14:10:00.000-04:00

TGIF Ladies – Yeah!!!! We made it …we made it through to the end of another week. The sun is shinning, the weather is nice, and it’s the weekend; who can ask for anything better. Thank you God. Did anyone get a chance to walk on their lunch today? If not, maybe after work, you can take advantage of the sunshine, and enjoy you a nice long walk. As I was riding down the highway this morning, I couldn’t help but to think about what I use to do on these kinds of days, when I lived in Philadelphia. I worked at the University of Pennsylvania, and if you knew anything about that campus, you knew that it was huge. I remember on my lunch, sometimes, I would grab a fruit salad from one of the many food carts, and then I would walk through the campus until I found a nice place to sit and eat it. And then after that, I would walk up and down Walnut Street, and window shop. Whatever I did, I got some form of exercise. So that’s my sentiments to you. Even if you don’t have a campus to walk through, still buy yourself some fruit, as a means of a new eating habit. And even if you don’t buy a thing, walk through that mall, or area, that has stores, to get your exercise. [Side bar: Can I tell you what I know to be funny about us; when it comes to looking for a new outfit, and/or a pair of shoes, we will walk until we can’t walk any more, to find what pleases our taste. Some of you are laughing right now, because you know it is the truth…lol. If we did that on a daily basis, just think of how healthy and fit we would be. Okay, I’m back.] I pray that this week that we have dedicated to health and fitness, has sparked something in you; I know it has for me; and that you will continue on next week, the week after, and so on, until you accomplish the goal that you had set out. Have a prosperous and healthy weekend. Alright now, I can see a new you, emerging. Do your thing girl.

"Your Healthy Investment to Self"

2010-04-15T16:41:00.000-04:00

Happy Thursday – We are one day away from the weekend – Hallelujah!! Has anyone started on their journey to a healthier and fitter you? If not, it’s not too late, to get something in, that will help motivate you into a cycle of exercise. Yesterday, after all of that talk of bringing my sneakers in, I didn’t get a chance to walk one step at work, and once I left, I didn’t want to do anything either, due to the kind of day that I had. However, as I was riding down the highway, I started thinking, okay, I have to do something. And I did. I called my son, who is very physically fit, and asked him to walk with me, and of course, he declined. But it was his answer, that made me say to myself, “whether I have a partner or not, it’s up to me to do what I need to do to be a healthier person”. Therefore, as soon as I walked in my door, I quickly changed my clothes and got out there, and walked for about a half hour; because I knew, the moment I sat down, it would have been a done deal. And that’s my word to you today, whether you have a partner or not, handle your business sisters. It may be a challenge at first, but you have to begin to look at the bigger picture; this hard work that you are about to put in, is an investment to yourself; and aren’t you worth every good thing that you decide to do, for your total well being? Yes you are. Ladies, I pray you have a wonderful rest of the day, and I hope to hear some of your results from this commitment that you have started, to become a better you. Peace & Love…

"Take Your Power Back"

2010-04-14T14:47:00.001-04:00

Happy Wednesday – Ladies – I did it!! Did what? I brought my sneakers. I am determined today, to walk. Who is ready to walk with me? Now I don’t know how far I’m going to walk, but I do know, that today, is the day to start. I hope you all are having a wonderful day thus far. This morning, as I was preparing for work, this thought came to my mind: “the only power that people take from us, is the power that we give them.” I placed that statement, along with some other words, on my FB page. And I know some are you are thinking, what does that have to do with fitness and health? It is this – we have allowed the way eat, our lack of exercise, and life circumstances, to take our power, of how we care for ourselves. These issues and situations that we once controlled, have now, taken over us. But I feel a change coming on. I feel like, in just about a minute, the tides are getting ready to turn for us. And it has to first start, with us taking our power back for the way we take care of ourselves. First, we have to learn how to eat right (I’m going to need much prayer on that), and then once we get that mindset, then our next step, is to physically challenge our bodies (I’m going to need much prayer on that too). Hey, confession is the beginning, for getting the help you need…lol. So, as we continue this week with our health and fitness, think about that thing, that has power over you when it comes to getting yourself on track to a healthier you. Meditate on it, face it, and conquer it; a healthier, fitter, and slimmer you is waiting on the other side. Remember, you have the power to change the way you look and feel. Peace & Love…

"It's Not Over Yet"

2010-04-13T17:06:00.001-04:00

Happy “Self-Love” Tuesday – Sisters, how are you feeling today? Here on the Eastern Shore, it’s a little cloudy; rain is own its way. This week, I have dedicated it, to getting fit and healthy. Has anyone started yet? Although we know that this should be an ongoing process, sometimes, we just need a reminder. Plus, I wanted to drop this thought/ action in your spirit, so that you and I, both, can start working towards our goal(s). However, I have a confession (sigh…lol). I have not taken one step of walking anywhere yet, and, I ate banana pudding today. I know what you are thinking, how are you going tell us what to do, and you yourself, haven’t done anything yet? Well, here is my answer to that; the week is not over yet. But if I was being graded on that, I would have failed by now, especially after eating that banana pudding. But can I tell y'all something about that banana pudding, it is the BOMB!!! Anyways, getting back self-love Tuesday, but I just had to get that out. This morning as I prepared for work, I got to thinking about health issues within our families, and what is it that we can do, to not repeat some of the same habits. We have to love ourselves enough to educate and to change some of these cycles that have been plaguing our love ones for years, and the only way we can do that, is by starting with ourselves and then passing that education on to others. As I traveled down the highway, I realized that this thing is much bigger than just losing a few pounds. Being healthy, and fit, is a mind set. When we go to the gym, when we run, or whatever it is we do for exercise, we must remind ourselves, that this is good for me and my well being. It’s also good for the people who are connected to us, and who rely on us. So, I hope this post today, will give you something to think about. And if you ate your donut today, or your muffin that was not fat free, remember, the week isn’t over yet. Still stick to the plan, and when you have accomplished your goal, please share with the rest of your sisters who is fighting this same battle. Have a great evening sisters, and “KEEP HEALTH AND FITNESS ALIVE” (in my Jesse Jackson voice). Peace & Love…

"Getting Fit - Let's Do It"

2010-04-12T12:24:00.000-04:00

Happy “Motivational” Monday – Welcome back sisters to our favorite day. Did you get a chance to relax, or was your weekend filled with all types of errands and chores, that you did not get a chance to do during the week? To my sisters who held it down this weekend, enjoy your time of rest today. This morning as I was preparing for work, the motivational thought that came to me this morning was, “let’s do it.” Let’s do what, you are asking? Let’s get out there, and start walking the pounds away. No longer will we stand on the side lines and look at other sisters and say, I remember when I used to look like that. Well, you may never go back to the shape you once had, but you can be healthy and fit. All this week, I’m dedicating it to getting fit. I’m starting today by walking. I’m curious to know what you will be doing. I will ask this of you, please keep me in prayer when it comes to glaze donuts; such a weakness. Instead of eating two almost every other day, I need to cut down to one donut, once a week. What is your weakness, and what do you need us to agree with you on in order to help you achieve your goal. And let me throw this out to you, that a personal trainer once told me; yes, I had a personal trainer at one point (What happened to those days?…lol). She stated,” don’t try and kill your self physically, by trying to get a shape that someone else has; always remember, that DNA plays a major role in your body shape.” Just thought I share that with you. So who is with me? Are you feeling it, are you starting to get revved up? Then ladies, put on those sneaks, and let’s get to walking. Woohoo!!!!